To tell the entire story would take a very long time! I'm a young SM to a 5yr old SD. I also have a 3yr old BS to an amazing husband. I LOATH SD. She has lived with her mother the last 5yrs because my husband can't stand to be any where near her or her mother. It literally makes him sick. When I got with my husband 5yrs ago he told me his ex would do terrible things to him. Rape him, beat him with objects, even try shoving objects in male places. Just terrible. His mother has always been fond of SD. In fact, she refuses to see my BS at all.