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Skids NEVER lie!

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I saw this article and it really resonated.

While this is an example of the kid initiating the allegations because he didn't get what he wanted, if our HCBM chose to go that route, I have no doubt the kids would do and say whatever she told them to do.

Jekyll and Hyde returns

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I’m a little late in posting, I swear I have no time to myself anymore.

But we ended up having a decent Halloween given the last few weeks of hellish buildup to it. <!--break--> DH put his foot down with skids, get a costume and go trick or treating in our neighborhood, or stay in. SD pouted, wouldn’t stop running her mouth, swearing at DH, calling everyone and everything stupid…long story short, SD stayed home, DH said no trick or treating for you. SS on the other hand…

SS had been taken over by an alien that weekend.

That’s the only explanation I have. 

How do you discipline when privileges don’t matter?

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SS was still causing havoc this weekend. He didn’t try to physically hurt T, I also kept T away from him for the most part or stood over them playing like a hawk. He did however take any and all opportunity to be a complete and utter dickhead to everyone in the house. 

It’s been 6 months!

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Since I first blogged about 6 months ago we have been riding the ups and downs, fortunately there have been a lot more ups lately.

I’m not saying things are perfect, we still have plenty of days where skids are yelling about something, saying something awful to DH or being general douchebags, but they’ve become fewer.

I still don’t trust SStween to be around Toddler unsupervised, but he has not attempted to hurt T in anyway and usually plays nicely. He even gave T hugs goodnight on the weekend that HE (SStween) asked for.

The rollercoaster goes up and down

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And round and round. When I first posted, we had reached an ultimate low with SDteen and SDtween. I had disengaged from SS who was nothing but an anger-filled monster running rampant, even DH’s and my relationship with SD had broken down to the point where I thought they would be PAS’d out of here shortly.

Another weekend of interference and alienation

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I hate the CO phone calls, I hate them so much, they are waaaaayyyy too frequent and do nothing but allow BM to interfere with the kids time here and alienate them further.

We were having a perfectly nice day up until BM rings. Kids go into one of their rooms to talk, come back out and neither of them will speak to us or be in the same room with us for the rest of the day/night. DH asked what was going on, he was told to go away, leave us alone! WTF?! We had planned to watch a movie, "we don't want to, you can't force us!" Ugh.

Update: I think I’ve entered the twilight zone

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After the hell that was December, January and the beginning of February, we were back to manageable and ok this weekend. I’d say almost better than ok, but my standards have lowered so far that may be skewed. Only short lived attitudes at times, and only one minor outburst from SStween that included a door slam when DH asked him to do some homework. So who are these children or what has happened in the 11 days since we saw them? I have no idea. 

Big sigh

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This is more of a rant, I’m feeling very frustrated. DH is backtracking from what we discussed the other night about giving a 6 month window to see if things improve. I know he loves them, no matter how awful they treat him, he remembers how the kids were 5-6 years ago. I do too, but I realized a long time ago those kids are gone and they are never coming back. Not my kids though.

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