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Submitted by EvilAngel on Tue, 07/14/2015 - 6:41pm

Last night we sat down with Thunderfoot and Softheart and went over the rules. They said they understood, no questions asked and yes they would follow them. Haha! I guess the rules go right out the window when no one is watching.
Woke up this morning and my puppy's hair is matted in places. I just bathed him last night. I thought maybe I left some soap in his fur but still thought it was odd. When I get up and go to he bathroom, there is a ton of toilet paper in the trashcan with jelly all over it. Why would that be in there? I ask Softheart because Thunderfoot is still asleep. She ( SH) tells me that she (TF) was eating a sandwich in the bathroom and bent over and dropped jelly all over the floor and my puppy. Really? I can't even deal with this anymore. She refuses to listen or follow rules. I would understand if we hadn't gone over the rules just hours before. One of the rules is no eating outside of the kitchen. Sigh...I give up.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 6:14am

She did give my puppy another bath and then raved about how shiny she got him. I told her that he was also shiny before someone got jelly all over him.

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 5:46am

Um. I always eat my sandwiches in the bathroom.

OMG WHO DOES THIS????

Ewww.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 6:16am

This is exactly what I was thinking. That is just disgusting. Softheart said that she was in there taking a shower and Thunderfoot was sitting on the toilet talking to her. And I understand girls going to the bathroom together but not in your house! At a bar or club, yes but at home???

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 6:17am

She would never do any of this without me literally standing over top of her. I don't have the time or patience to even deal with this kid.

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Submitted by Monchichi on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 5:52am

My OCD's cannot cope with this. I cannot believe someone eats in a bathroom, never mind by a toilet.

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Submitted by Monchichi on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 6:00am

That is too disgusting to even contemplate. You're not playing nicely with your friends Sally. Go time out now!

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Submitted by Monchichi on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 6:11am

There is no talking in time out young lady. Your time just started from 0 again. I am most disappointed in your behaviour right now.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 6:19am

She's a disgusting kid period. Messy, lasy, gross. She's a slob. I don't even care how hard she tries NOT to look like a slob, she still does.

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Submitted by Monchichi on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 6:22am

Lack of hygiene is my "kryptonite". I cannot handle it never mind contemplate just how it can get. This is beyond disgusting. No conversation/ bonding time was that important, that you need to eat while sitting on a toilet, in a steamed up bathroom while your sister showers.

How much of a conversation could they really have been having, if you consider all of those factors?

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 6:41am

Well this is how it went. I told him that I figured out what was on the puppy and told him what it was and how it got there. When he got home, we were all outside and he said something about it to both of them. Of course one of them blamed the other and so forth. Then they got mad and stormed into the house. He told me that he thought Softheart did it. That pissed me off because Thunderfoot NEVER does anything wrong. I told him I didn't give a shit WHO did it. ONE of them did it and we JUST discussed the rules! I don't think SH did it. I know that TF follows her in the bathroom because I have seen her do it. I am just going to have to become a warden there I guess. I was letting stuff slide because we hadn't all sat down and talked but no more. I feel like I have to say something to him EVERY SINGLE DAY about stuff that she does. She CAN'T be that dumb. She just can't. She leaves stuff laying around, dishes in the sink, messy bathroom. It's everyday that I have to say something and I am sick to death of it! And what do you take from someone that has already had everything taken from her?

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 7:21am

Now that he has a job, he's only off on Sunday. I overheard her saying that Sunday was going to be their day. In what universe? He's not coming over every Sunday. Nope. We like to go out with friends on Sundays and he's not going to be there without us. I don't care if I have to drag her ass with us everywhere we go.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 7:23am

You are exactly on point. I am just going to have to start being MORE of a bitch I guess. I don't care what she thinks of me and if he gets mad, so be it. I am not living in a house that isn't tidy. And I can't overlook it and just let him deal with it because it won't get done. They are supposed to clean the house today while we are gone. We'll see if that gets done or not. I have a feeling it won't so they better be ready for hell to break loose when I get home.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 9:31am

DH jokingly mentioned that I should give her a roll of TP and a spork. And to tell her lights out at 8. I told him that appeared to be what was going to have to happen. And padlocks for the cabinets and fridge.

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Submitted by Redredwine on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 7:26am

Of course she's not that dumb. She's smart enough to know you defer to her daddy and that her daddy won't do anything. She's also going to do the least amount possible in anything.

And that's why it's enough to make you wanna knock all their heads together.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 7:31am

That's what I told Softheart yesterday. That I knew the game Thunderfoot was playing and it was going to come to a halt. I have been just telling DH about whatever it is that she was or wasn't doing and not saying anything. That comes to an end today. I just text Softheart and told her when they both get up they need to clean the house. She usually ends up doing all of it so I told her if TF didn't help to just stop cleaning and I would deal with it when I got home.

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 9:36am

First of all, who eats in the bathroom?

Second of all, isn't this girl 16? Absolutely no reason that she cannot properly clean up her messes. I would be livid.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 9:40am

Yes she is 16 and has no clue what "clean up your own mess" means. That very same day...right after we mentioned the jelly... She was eating gummy bears on the couch and just left her empty bag there. She's not supposed to be eating ANYTHING ANYWHERE except the kitchen. And while that may seem extreme, this kid is a total klutz and spills and drops anything she eats or drinks.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 11:06am

Sounds like it's time to lock down all of the food. And I mean every bloody bit. NO food except in the kitchen means lock the facking kitchen door. If TF wants food, the kitchen needs to be unlocked (or the refrigerator or the pantry or the cabinets). She cannot eat food in another room if she cannot GET to the food.

Our solution to PrincASS and PigPen sneaking junk food was to remove the junk food and keep it in our bedroom or locked up in the basement. Strangely enough, we never find empty cans of tuna or vegetables around the house...

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 11:35am

I told DH we were going to have to get a garage door for the kitchen! He told them food was off limits after 10:30. Why anyone even needs to be eating that late, I don't know. She was trying to be a smart ass yesterday with her gummy bears. She asked DH where she could keep them since there was no food outside of the kitchen. Kid I am not going to eat your stupid gummy bears! (And even if I wanted to, they aren't HERS. I don't recall her having a job or any money to buy anything! At least if I eat them they can be replaced since I work.) Just put them in the cabinet!!! But she didn't mind eating them ON THE SOFA! What in the hell???

I can actually lock her out of the main house and if she doesn't start listening it's going to happen. She can go pee outside.

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 11:48am

She can pee outside AND eat her gummy bears outside, at the same time. See, she is a multi-tasker!

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:07pm

I have actually gone into the bathroom at work... and some women sit on the toilet doing their business, talk on their facking phone, and EAT IN THERE. Absolutely DISGUSTING. :sick: :sick: :sick:

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:11pm

Eh, sometimes people get hungry at odd hours but maybe she's bored. In our case, it was that they wanted the junk food and we limit it. PrincASS actually brought cookies in his backpack once. Our mean ol' dog must have stepped on the backpack and squished them. ~bats lashes innocently~ That's what happens when you leave your backpack in the middle of the living room floor and that's where our 100+ pound dog spends most }:) of his time...

Lock it up, lock her out. You can get camp toilets for around $20.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:25pm

I think a lot of her eating is out of boredom. She better watch is because I have noticed her backside spreading. }:)

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:31pm

Roll those gummi bears in SUGAR. Buy the economy size bag, of course. }:)

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:48pm

I had a box of clothes I was taking to the Goodwill and I let them go thru it first to see if there was anything they wanted. It was mainly t-shirts and crap. There was one pair of shorts and one pair of PJ bottoms in there. Thunderfoot took those. They is NO WAY she can fit in them...but go ahead and try honey. Wink

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:05pm

Well they are there with my puppy and DHs dog. At first I thought she (Thunderfoot) might try to hurt him but I really don't think she would do that. She knows that I would flip shit on her if she did. So would DH...it would NOT be pretty.

Normally she goes to bed before we do...or at least to her room. Since Softheart is there, they have been staying up watching TV. And the 2 of them are trying to eat us out of house and home I think. They eat 3-4 times a day and STILL complain about being hungry. As soon as DH walked in the door yesterday, the first question out of her mouth was, "Did you get food?" (He had grocery bags in his hand) I said, "What do you need food for? The cupboard is full of all the BS crap that you like." She is not SUPPOSED to eat anywhere but the kitchen but it is obvious she is going to do just what in the hell ever she wants when we are sleeping or not there. I am just waiting on her to spill spaghetti sauce all over my cream colored sofa. Shit will get REAL when that happens.

She has zero respect for anyone or anything. She has been babied all her life and doesn't know what respect even is. She has no initiative to do anything at all.

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 2:21pm

++++++++++++Some kids are just a-holes, and have no respect for property or others. They just don't.+++++++++++

I tell this to DH all the time. I say, "even assholes have parents. Sometimes it's YOUR kid who's the asshole."

I think I am going to use your last sentence as my tagline. Any objections???

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:24pm

Not at the moment but I am thinking we are going to have to figure something out. HE buys her the junk...not me. She won't eat the things that I like. Granola bars and fruit usually.

She is good about taking my puppy out for me when I am not there. I am not 100% comfortable with that but I don't want to have to crate him for 8 hours either. Of course if I am home she won't take out my dog OR "her" dog, as she likes to call him. It's "her" dog when someone does something to him that she doesn't like. Apparently she and Softheart gave him a bath today and he tried to bite Softheart so she smacked him. Thunderfoot yelled at her "Don't hit my dog!" (Softheart just text me that) I've told her if he EVER bites me or anyone else that he isn't supposed to, I will knock his block off. I thought he was going to bite my mom one day and if he had, he wouldn't be in my house anymore!

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Submitted by notasm3 on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:18pm

It is time for YOU to go bat shit crazy on her. Like Exorcist crazy. Followed by icy calm.

Surely you can outwit a 16 year old moron. Make her life miserable. Be open, be passive aggressive, be obnoxious, be ultra sweet as you stab her in the back. Vary it so she never knows what is coming.

Smush her like a cockroach. She's 16 not 4.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:27pm

That is exactly my plan as of today. I have let it go on long enough without saying anything to her. The reason that I just tell DH to handle it is because I have a HORRID temper and I don't know what might come out of my mouth. I don't care anymore. Let her cry, let her tell Daddddyyyyyy what a mean mean step mom I am. Don't even care anymore.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:41pm

The rules that we went over were sort of like this. I printed out a list and then we went over it and I explained why I wanted things done this way. I told them that I wasn't their maid and that I like the house to be clean and for all of us to get along and "be a team" :sick: ... this is what I expected. In one ear, out the other.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:39pm

When I do the shopping...there is none of that stuff. However DH has a major sweet tooth so he buys junk all the time.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 1:49pm

It will probably be ON tonight because I am already tired and cranky. They will start in as soon as we walk in the door. DH and I get home around the same time. If they really wanted to suck up...they would have dinner ready but then again I prefer my house in one piece.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Thu, 07/16/2015 - 6:43am

The house was actually not a disaster when I got home but you have to remember that Softheart is also there. SH is used to having to clean the house, had it only been TF...nothing would have been done. So I didn't get to go bat shit on her. It's only a matter of time. Softheart goes home today...I give it about a 24 hour span.