Hello, I know a lot of you are stepparents seeking the rights to love a child you have loved for a period of time without being pushed aside as if you were nothing.... but what about the child who was pushed aside as if they were nothing? I need advise. I met my soon to be EX 13 years ago. since day one he wanted to love and adopt my daughter as if she was his own. in the 13 years he promised her and myself and adoption to her, 10 of those years we have been married.