Snappy Answers
I need to such BF/DH/SO's Gems like
1. Why does SS/SD's filthy room bother you so much-why don't you pick your battles and close the door?
2. Why are a few dishes lying around such a big deal to you?
3. What's it to you if SS/SD won't wash/shower/brush their teeth?
4. (In response to any constructive criticism of their golden child)You just don't like my darling perfect child! 
5. I did not see (purposly ignored) SS/Sd's behavior this or that so it did not happen therefore there are no consequences for SS/SD's behavior-one cannot unjustly accuse golden child right?
Or this classic for SM's that do not have bio children-
6. You don't know what it is like -you don't have children of your own!
Does anyone have some good snappy answers (or just more questions! ha)
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watch out Jon Stewart
you are a riot!
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
Love those responses!! LOL
Love those responses!! LOL
my response
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
1. Yes, I pick my battles and this is one of them. What's your problem with your kid having some responsiblites.
2. Because I choose not to live that way and as the other adult in this home, I have that right.
3. Why doesn't your kid not practicing regular hygene bother you? Are you just to lazy to give a damn about your kids cleanliness-or did you fail health class in school?
4. Deserves no response. But, if you chose to respond-I dislike this behaviour. If you can't handle that, we need to talk. To a professional. (this could mean an attorney, or a family counselor, depending on the situation).
5. I did see it (or have evidence of it or whatever the case may be.) And I am an adult in this house, equal to your standing. If you choose to basically call me a liar, we're going to see a professional (again, be it an attorney or family counselor, depending you your feelings).
6. So you think just because you had boinked BM and it created a child, it makes you an expert? If impregnating a woman makes a man an expert, why are there so many child abuse cases out there?
There are cats that eat their young, you know?
I loved these!
I will use some answers for sure!
Number 6 is not for me but a friend who has no bio kids and she gets that from her BM all the time (so she has no credibility with her stepkids!). I told her to say "No, I do not have bio-kids-BUT at one time I was a kid myself!"
Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!
1. Because the
1. Because the rats/mice/roaches that will follow will not contain themselves by closed door.
2. Because I am not a maid, nor should I be treated like one. This is a SELF cleaning kitchen/house- EVERYONE MAY PICK UP AFTER THEMSELVES!
3. Because I can smell them across the room, AND b/c it's unhealthy, and part of a parents job to teach kids good hygiene.
4. I may like them more if they acted more likable (ie respectful, responsible and gracious) at some point in my presence.
5. (I'm at a loss on this one since I have given DH total responsibility regarding consequences for SD, so many times I tell him what she did, and he chooses whether or not to correct her. But we are partners in parenting, so he has stepped up here. It's all part of my disengaging process.)
Or this classic for SM's that do not have bio children-
6. (Ok, I do have bio children BUT I would come back with this one-)
AND YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO NOT HAVE CHILDREN OF YOUR OWN, AND YET BE STUCK BEING THE ONLY RESPONSIBLE PARENT TO SOMEONE ELSE'S CHILD!
"When you take charge of your life, there is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life." ~Geoffrey F. Abert
Sita Tara-love that No. 6.
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
That fits so many of the stepparents on here. Even me. My kids are grown. H does not have to take anything from them, do anything for them.
What an awesome response! AND YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO HAVE MY CHILDREN GROWN, AND BE STUCK TAKING CRAP OFF OF SOMEONE ELSE's KID!
I already hear myself saying it...
And the more I think of it....
My sons aren't perfect, but really my DH doesn't know what it's like to deal with a hostile ex, or have a hostile SK almost every day of the year. But he tries to appreciate and support me in this so that makes all the difference in the world.
"When you take charge of your life, there is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life." ~Geoffrey F. Abert
My answers... (no wonder I was single for so long!)
1. I help pay the mortgage on that room too and if I wanted to live in squalor I could do it a lot cheaper than this home.
2. You're right. I'll just stop shaving my legs and when I rub against you at night like a sasquatch, I'll just ask why a few hairs are such a big deal to you?
3. The next time she speaks to me and it makes my eyes water will be the last time she is ever allowed to address me without brushing her teeth first.
4. I don't have to like your child. I have to treat her with respect and care for her. And that, my dear, is a two way street. You may want to sniff out the real violator of the "respect" rule.
5. I did not see my children pulled out of my uterus either (c-section), but I'm pretty sure I gave birth.
6. Of course I have a child, I'm talking to him right now.