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Endora's picture

Submitted by Endora on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 12:12pm

On my part. I have just realized that having SS16 fulltime, is like having a permanent irritating houseguest, whats more I get to pay for the privelige of being constantly inconvenienced in my own home! I also realize on some level SS16 can feel this and I feel powerless to change it by myself. If DH would only step up to the plate and stop guilt parenting so much, I might be able to tolerate SS. I know at 18 SS will still be with us but we will no longer be "legally" responsible for him and that is some compensation.

Any thoughts about your situations?

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bellacita's picture

Submitted by bellacita on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 12:16pm

no seriously though, it is so hard to feel like an outsider and uncomfortable in ur own home. and ur rite...it IS DH who makes it this way. its not zippys fault for how he is bc thats all he knows and hasnt been taught otherwise. if he hasnt stopped yet, im afraid u do just have to wait it out until 18 Sad

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~the late great George Carlin

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Submitted by sam on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 12:17pm

i come from in the eyes of the law 16 year olds are considered adults.I believe that they should get part time jobs and start to have some responsability as adults the longer they stay with you and everything is done for them they will milk it.My bs is 13 and is dying to get a job and even though hes young i encourage him.Though not many places would hire a 13 year old.How do you make them do this if they dont want to?