I want to thank everyone here for sharing their stories so honestly! It has been more helpful for me to read your experiences and advice on here than all the months of counseling I have tried to help me with the whole "step" issue. I have finally come to the conclusion that I had to disengage, it has been very helpful for me, but frustrating for DH. He thinks I hate his kids. I don't hate them, but I don't like them either. If they were random kids I met in a Sunday School Class or any other place they would not be children I would choose to be around.