DH sent me a weird text about "coming down" to see him. It didn't make sense. So I responded that maybe he meant it for somebody else? He said no, he meant when am I "coming down" to have lunch with him at work. Still didn't make sense because I work also and I wouldn't be "coming down" to see him and we'd never discussed this previously but I let it go.

What I was thinking was that he and SD20 were discussing her "coming down" to our town to visit. Just a month ago he told her not to bother because she was posting nasty stuff online to hurt me. It was the first time he ever backed me up, and I felt good about it. So this morning I checked his phone and sure enough, he texted SD20 the exact same thing he'd sent me, and now they're discussing timing for her visit.

I am so pissed, but I feel hopeless as well. I do intend to confront him, while the two of us are having the lunch he asked me to "come down" for. But why wouldn't you just come clean? I'm going to find out eventually, and I'm not a moron. And I'm going to be way pissed about the lie.