Taking the day off Friday...
The Merovingian from the Matrix had it right. “If you do not take time, how can you have time?”
That’s been running through my head this morning.
DW asked me earlier morning if SS can have some friends stay over this weekend. I was a bit confused because it is Father’s Day on Sunday and usually these weekends he is with his father. That is when DW reminded me that Donkeykong is away this weekend and had asked us to take SS.
What kind of a father would relinquish custody of his son on FATHER’S DAY!?!? SMH
Anyways, since this is the “last weekend” we’ll have SS in a while (uh…we had him every weekend in the month of May because “Mr. Sperm Donor with Rights” was “busy”) DW wants to make this weekend all about SS and SS having fun…
Frack me…Why bother making ANY day special when we have the Golden Child in our midst?
The first thought that popped into my head when DW announced this to me was “Am I being punished? Did I not do enough for you on Mother’s Day?
So I was stewing on this thought morning. Rather than be pissed…I decided to take matters into my own hands. There’s a festival in town that I have been wishing to attend. I originally wanted to go with DW but it doesn’t look like that is going to happen. So I just told my boss that I am taking the day off on Friday so I can go. I might come in the morning to do a bit of work but then I am off to the festival. Boss looked at me and said “Can I come too?”.
I just got off the phone with DW and told her what I am doing. She seemed surprised. I never do things like this at the last minute. She wasn’t disappointed, just surprised. I wish I could tell her the real reason why I am doing this. “I’m taking time for myself because I know I am not getting any this weekend.” Maybe I will tell her. Maybe I won’t. All I know is, I am looking forward to the festival!
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I don't understand that. I
I don't understand that. I mean, I want to see my children on Father's day and my Dad wants to see me and his Grandkids.
Dear lord! What is it with
Dear lord! What is it with these people? It's as if you and DH have no right to go on vacation together! SMH.
I "tried" explaining that SS doesn't need his Mom to throw a ticker-tape parade for him EVERY. SINGLE. WEEKEND that he is with us, but it's wasted breath now...
If you phrased it a little
If you phrased it a little differently, would your DW listen?
"This is Father's Day weekend, and if you would rather make it about SS, then I will spend time doing other things. We had him every weekend in May."
I am guessing probably not. It doesn't seem that your DW is rational about anything remotely critical about SS. That would really and truly drive me insane. I cannot stand the whole child-worshipping attitude, I don't know how you put up with it without having an LYS (losing your shit) moment.
Darkstar, I am not opposed to
Darkstar, I am not opposed to trying...It's just that I ran through different scenarios in my head already and I forsee each one of them ending like these;
"Why do I feel you have something against SS!?"
"Oh common! How will Father's Day be ruined if SS has a few friends over!?"
"What is it that you want to do exactly? You normally just sit back and relax anyways on Father's Day? So why can't SS have fun while he's here?"
I figured just taking one day for myself will just lesson the impact of the entire weekend being SS-centric. And yes, you are right, if I voice my dissaproval about what DW wants to do for SS this weekend, it is going to automatically be misconstrued as me being critical of him. Don't really want to wade into those waters again.
"it is going to automatically
"it is going to automatically be misconstrued as me being critical of him"
Well, if you want to grab her attention (and possibly start WWIII) you could say, "I'm not being critical of him. I'm being critical of YOU."
(Totally kidding. Do not say that. *lol*)
I definetly do not want to
I definetly do not want to take SS. We took him one year and he was bored to tears (literally). It also gets really crowded on the weekends so DW and I usually make a point of going during the week when it is considerably less crowded. Unfortunately, we have no one to look after the kids while DW I go so DW suggested we wait for the venue to return in September. So I'll be taking DW in September.
Enjoy your day! I am
Enjoy your day!
I am dreading Father's day. SS15 will probably feel forced to make an appearance and I can't stand the sight of his nasty, pot smoking, punk ass face. Neither can DH to be quite honest, but he would NEVER tell him that he can't come over if SS asks. I already have DHs presents from BS4 purchased and just have to throw a little hand made BS4 project together. I will have BS give DH all of his things on Sunday morning and then we will go to church and be sure to be G.O.N.E for the day.
I can't stand the sight of the stupid dog and pony show. Neither skid gives a crap about DH, unless they want or need something from him. Last year SD16 did NOTHING, and I think SS15 actually got DH a card. The year prior? DH ended up getting pissed, because he had to run all over creation to pick SD up, pick SS up, SD wasn't ready when he got there, SS wasn't answering his phone so DH ended up saying screw it, told them both not to bother. I mean WTF?
And to be perfectly honest? I think Father's Day and Mother's Day are dumb. Just another retail "holiday" for retailers to rake in the money. Kids should honestly be showing thanks and respect for their parents EVERY day, not just "pretending" on some stupid "holiday"
I dunno. I kind of liked
I dunno. I kind of liked Father's Day (and Mother's Day) because I felt we were getting a tradition going. I mean, I don't place *THAT* much importance on it, I really don't but I don't want to spend my Father's Day watching after SS and bunch of his friends and then cook and clean up after them...Because that is what my Father's Day is looking like at this point.
DW and Donkeykong's CO has a
DW and Donkeykong's CO has a similar clause.
Oh yes she has sueu2. DW is
Oh yes she has sueu2. DW is very sweet, loving and appreciative of me every day and this goes doubly so on Father's Day...One year, she even got me a brand new BBQ set.
BUT, in the past, we never had SS with us on Father's Day. So really, DW was capable of focusing her attention on me because little Oedipus Rex was not with us.
Now that SS is with us this weekend, the fact that it is Father's Day seems so far off the radar..., it's like it is not even there.
DW wants SS to have this fun-filled weekend-long sleepover for SS. I actually managed to convince her to bring it down to just one night, but I felt that an argument was beginning to brew so I just left it at that. I wasn't about to force a claim on Sunday and state that this day should be MY day....because really...I shouldn't have to.
No, you should not have to,
No, you should not have to, that is for sure.
This is our week with SD7, so typically she'd be with us on Sunday. DW is letting her go to her father's that day... and that is a great father's day gift for me. I would love to just spend some time with my Bs3 - maybe take him ice skating or something. If SD7 was going to be here, it would be a bad father's day - I wouldn't be able to relax, I'd constantly have to get on her about things, listen to her "But mommmmmmmy" whining, etc. So really the best present is for her to not be here.
I suspect that SD7 will be taken to her father's house in the morning sunday morning. I guarantee that SD7 will not say anything to me unless prompted by DW to do so.
Your sentiments pretty much
Your sentiments pretty much mirror mine when SS was 7. Oh boy was SS such a needy child! SS is 14 now and can pretty much entertain himself but we still have to look after him. Now that DW wants to invite EVEN MORE teens over, I really don't see myself relaxing much this weekend. I swear it's as if "Father's Day" became "SS Day".