Poor BM.
It funny how I got attacked my BM's friend and told that I should be keeping things privet. Yet my boyfriends ex feels free to bitch in her public page about how he doesn't care about the kids since he's demanding they stick to the standard visitation agreement.
She wants to cry that he gets the kids for 6 weeks this summer but they can't handle being away from her one weekend. Odd they seem pretty happy each weekend they are here and she didn't have trouble leaving them with her other family memebers all the time last summer.
Just love how it's a bash fest that's he's out to hurt the kids by sticking with the agreed visitation.
We gave her time to adjust it. She ignored it until she found out it wasn't just older child coming for 6 weeks but the little one also. She tried pulling crap with him and when he refuses she then tried going through the lawyers who I'm guessing told her to shut it since she tried to pretend he hadn't already said no.
We said no beause this is easier and gives him more time over all with the kids. Her way means less time and alot more travel which he pays for. The 6 weeks also gives him time to actually try and correct M's aggressive behavior since BM had all school year and it only got worse.
She paints herself like most to be just so worried about her babies but then pawns them off on her sick mother. She couldn't even be bothered to tell us she wouldn't be home for mothers day when he brought them home early.
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A few years ago I told myself
A few years ago I told myself if I can't emotionally deal with the anger and frustration I get from seeing what BM posts then I need to stop checking on her page. She posts things for a reaction and she'll post twice as much if she gets one and probably three times as much if you ignore her just to bait you back. I know you're venting but there comes a point where you're doing it to yourself. Look at her page if you must,but learn how to control your reaction. Sure it's not fair, it's not the truth but those people who follow her aren't looking for the truth anyway.
SO was the one who looked at
SO was the one who looked at her page, not I. He was frustrated because of course she was lying. He kept saying he wanted to comment and I advised him not to. She would only delete his comment and block him.
Other then coming here to let off some steam I did nothing but encourage him to relax and leave it be. Sure take screen shots but I don't think it's something the lawyer will care about.
Lol yeah I'm really bad with
Lol yeah I'm really bad with spelling.
The best thing a person can
The best thing a person can do is block them from facebook. You can make yourself crazy reading the crap the disfunctional parent posts.
No. There are multiple
No. There are multiple reasons for sticking with the 6 weeks.
He wishes to follow the standard visitation agreement this year which she did agree to originally. If he finds it to be an issue they can agree to adjust it before next year.
She is the one who started them following this agreement in January. She ignored it until the end of April when we had already made adjustments so that we could take care of the kids during this time period. She also didn't care when she thought it was daughter but when told to read two more lines down that son comes too she started to throw a fit. She even tried to tell her lawyer that he was trying to keep the son against the order. Our lawyer really loved when he quickly pointed out the section which explained he keeps son too and that he had the messages showing she knew that.
I will say that the main
I will say that the main thing though is that the 6 weeks gives him more time. He get's to have more time to be a dad to his kids. He get's 6 weeks to spend with them and bond.
During the school year he barely gets 2 days every 2 weeks. The children get to have a "normal" home and life with mom but never get to feel home with dad. It's just visiting. This means that they get 6 weeks without thinking "ok tomorrow we go back". 6 weeks without him having to deal with pick up and drop off and her demands.
It gives them 6 weeks of this is how things are with dad instead of yo-yoing back and forth between two homes and two sets of rules because trust me things in our home are way different from things in her home. His daughter gets 6 weeks of being a child and not having to take care of her brother to the point of bathing the boy. His son gets 6 weeks of 'hitting is not ok' and here is a real consequence that continue.
It's about the court ordered visitation giving him time to make up for what he loses while they spend the school year with mom.
I know it's tough on mom but this isn't about mom. This is about the kids and their dad. They don't need more time to bond with mom. They have a solid bond with her. What they don't have is their father getting to be a dad because she took that away when she left him and refused to let him see the kids for months at first. Then he got one day every other weekend. Now with the standard court order he gets time and he wants it. If the kids can't handle it then he will adjust but he want's to try it first.