DH swears at my cats so I can swear at SS, right?
Kind of a silly rant, but here goes anyway...
So DH has this nasty habit of saying things to the cats like "you're a f-ing piece of s@!$" or just calling them nasty things. Now, I love my cats more than most humans and when he says stuff like this to them it really, really bothers me. I believe that they don't understand what he's saying and he is nice to them otherwise by petting them a lot and feeding them first thing in the morning and cleaning up after them. So I don't think he hurts them in any way. But I feel bad to hear him say those things to animals I truly care about.
I've told him how it bothers me and how I want it to stop but he just keeps doing it. I tried to get him to understand how I feel by comparing to SS13. Obviously SS would understand me if I said mean things to him so I asked DH how he would feel if someone had said that stuff to SS when he was a baby. Well, that didn't go over well. I can't compare the two, he said, so my argument was stupid. I'm tempted to start talking about SS like DH talks to the cats (when SS isn't around, of course) to see if that would make a point. My point would be that SS bugs me sometimes so why not express my displeasure in a similar way? SS wouldn't know the difference. So who cares?
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I am a cat lover myself. I
I am a cat lover myself. I have 3 indoor cats. I totally understand. I also have a feral cat that I trapped and had spayed. She had 5 kittens under our shed. I got someone to foster the kittens. I wanted to try to find the mama cat a home. We could not even trap her. The lady that foster the kittens...put on gloves and a coat. She picked up my the neck. The cat now lives under the shed. She coaches me to pet here but I would never pick her up. Even if I would find her a home, do not know how we transfer her. No one wants a cat, much less a semi- feral cat. DH made a comment about me feeding her. I am not going to stop feeding her. If he makes another comme nt about the cost of feeding her. I will tell him...it cost no more than your mama's diet soda habit who is in the nursing home. And WE PAY FOR THAT HABIT>>>SO BACK OFF.
Getting to the point, I would tell DH to STOP IT NOW. It is not just about the cats. It is disrespecting your feelings.
Just put your foot in his ass. GOOD LUCK.
Lol! I'm feeding a stray too!
Lol! I'm feeding a stray too! DH wants me to stop but I'm considering buying a little house for him to sleep in in case he doesn't have adequate shelter.
If I ever said some of the
If I ever said some of the things that DH says to our BS 3.5 to miss precious SD15?? Oh holy hell on a stick!
My DH actually made the dumbest comment the other day when I was getting on him about consequences for some usual stupid shit that SD was doing, he said and I quote "I don't like being the dickhead all of the time" Hmmm... that's funny, because you have ZERO problem being a dickhead to BS 3.5 when he is "annoying" you.
Yeah, but in DH world, that is OK.
I called DH's little brown
I called DH's little brown Shih Tzu a "butt nugget" last night and he laughed his a$$ off. The dog is so ugly he's cute and he was sitting there with his hair all slimy b/c our big mastiff had licked him and he looked pathetic. We were eating supper and the dog was sitting there begging from DH as usual and the word just popped out of my mouth b/c I always get irritated when the dog begs.
Your DH is not an animal
Your DH is not an animal lover so this is not something that will ever compute for him. You may make a bad situation worse with this plan. He clearly holds your cats lower than humans and I think this will backfire on you.
Good luck with that! I can
Good luck with that!
I can get away with certain truths, like saying SD's lazy, not that smart, and even saying she's a brat, but if I ever cussed her to him, shit would hit the fan big time!
Yeah, I don't think I could
Yeah, I don't think I could actually say really mean stuff about SS. I reserve that talk for people I truly hate which is very few and SS isn't one of them. Also, I don't think DH would see my point.
I think he gets annoyed with
I think he gets annoyed with the cats. He's not an animal lover at all. Sometimes I think he goes a little overboard to get a reaction out of me too. He and I have that kind of relationship where we push each other's buttons. Usually he knows when to stop, but this name calling of the cats thing is an issue that's a bigger deal to me than I think he realizes.
Did he show this side before
Did he show this side before you married him?
If DH shows any aggression
If DH shows any aggression towards my pets, I thwack him on his testicles.
I do not have kids. My four legged fur kids are my kids. He f**ks with them, he gets a sore nut.
The end.
My DH does the same to my
My DH does the same to my cat but goes as far as pushing the cat off of everything even if kitty is cuddling me and not him. It frustrates me to no end! He talks about wanting the cat to die and everything. I have tried telling him I love my cat almost as much as my kids, but he doesn't get it. If I started talking about his kids like that all hell would break lose! I think at this point just use the old "sticks and stones" approach. His words are hurtful to your animal, but he's not physically hurting it. Talking bad openly about his kids seems like a disaster waiting to happen.
I can't say on here what my
I can't say on here what my SO calls my dog because SO is so politically incorrect. But it has to do with my dog's brain damage he had as a puppy which causes his leg to twitch. He calls my other dog the mad crapper, because she's left gifts in the office and SS' room a number of times.
And he calls his own dog 'f--ker' when he barks 3 seconds after being let outside.
But he is a dog lover and loves all my dogs despite the names. And he adores his own dog, they are like best friends. My SO is just a little rough around the edges when it comes to expressing himself. And he doesn't call them names all the time.