Why is it that when DH has SD16 I have to be involved or he gets mad? Because of all the drama and his lack of parenting I don't want to be around SD16 unless I absolutely have to. My DDs usually have thing to do over the weekend so DH gets mad and tells me I am having them make plans.... Really DH? I make their friends do things over the weekend to purposely keep my DDs busy? Really? No. That's called normal. My oldest is 18, my youngest is 12. They have friends. That's what that looks like. As for me? I take his weekends with SD and make plans of my own or take the time to myself.