Well this weekend we did not have the kids which was awesome...But sunday we got SD16 for about 2 hours to decorate our tree....At first she had a face down to her knees but once we started it got alot better but what shocked me was as she started laughing and enjoying putting up the tree it was almost time to bring her back to her moms and she didnt want to go...she got sulky and crabby once again and my husband said when I put a load of laundry in the wash she told him her and mom were fighting again and she didnt want to go back...I think its almost time to get her full time...GOD HELP ME!!!! I feel bad because after she left BM called us to yell about picking her up..Let me tell you she wasnt even home, she was out and when we dropped her off she still wasnt home. SD told us she has been out all weekend. Why take her seriously....I mean I cant stand the kid but sometimes I actually feel bad for her. SD also told us she got introduced to a new man once again, She brings men in all the time....When her daughter said I dont really want to meet him, mom brought him in anyway...She tried to call the house for us to pick her up but we were on a weekend away...The thought of getting her full time is just...speachless right now...But the thought that she stays visiting her mom I think needs to stop... At a lost here need some advice...When she is with us at times she is disrespectful, moody like a typical teen but just mean sometimes...but on the other hand I think if she stays visiting mom her anxiety and issues are going to get worse...How do i deal with this because dad is just asking me what to do and I just want to say shes not mine but I havent so....Help me out here....