So yesterday had afternoon off with my son 14. We went to lunch, ran some errands, had a great day. SD had to stay at BM's till DH got out of work. (since I will not pick her up since nasty text) Now usually i take SD16 with me on my errands. they don't mind it because I always take them to lunch. Now lunch is not Mcdonalds or a hot dog place, I take them to nice places so this way no bitching about errands. Always did this with mine and it always worked. Well SD loves to go and she usually gets something to so all around everyone is happy. NOT YESTERDAY }:) ... (when she heard son went was a little upset)

So SD comes home about 4 with DH. My son is watching TV in the living, which by the way when SD comes he leaves and goes in his room, he was watching some cartoon thing. SD comes grabs the remote and changes the station to something she wants to see. I'm in the kitchen preparing dinner and hear my son say "hey i was watching that". She ignores him so I walk in the living room tell SD can i see the remote she says sure with a smile and I change it back to my sons station and give remote to son. She says "hey i was watching that". I ignore her and walk back to kitchen. LOVED THAT ONE!!!

Rest of night she pretty much ignores me. She seemed aggravated because DH was paying way to much attention to me and she tried to get his all night but he kept going back to me to talk to me about his horrible day. Well i went off to bed and this morning she is waiting for her grandfather to pick her up for school. 9since i will not due again to nasty text) She is getting ready and says "hey SM where is my jeans and that shirt I love". No clue is my response. She says "I left it for you to wash with my other cloths". I ask "OH where did you leave that". She says in my back pack at the top of the stairs I want to wear that today, didn't you do laundry. Yes I did i said but if your cloths is not in the hamper sorry your out of luck.

She then says...brace yourselves... I am sorry I got cocky with you, I am sorry i was disrespectful, I did not mean it, i dont know what was wrong with me please dont be mad at me anymore and started to cry.... :jawdrop: I was totally shocked. I talked to her about how hurt i was with her being so disrespectful and that i was not here to be her enemy and I am here because i love her father and her and hate being mad but she needed to learn a lesson. She states i learned it can you please wash my cloths tonight i will help you....i said yes and told her to call her grandfather and if he hasnt left i would take her to school. But told her this was my punishment to you for your text. She says i know, thank you!!! I hope this is the begining of a new outlook...I also told her i blocked her number from my phone and that will continue until i see fit....She said i know i tried to text you yesterday and you always answer. i hate that you didn't. I told her sorry but that will remain for about 2 weeks...If I see things are good i will put you back on but not until. i cant punish you because you are not my child but i can stop you from hurting me by blocking you, not doing your laundry and not taking you to school....she completely understood and told me this was her first punishment...Sad!!!

DH called me and said i heard what happened this morning...I was shocked he heard already and thanked me for not giving in and thinks she learned her lesson because she told DH not to tell me this but she does love being with me....I was happy to here this..
Lets hope for the best but it was nice to see she was sorry for what she did and knew i was upset with her. My fingers are crossed but my guard is not completely down as of yet...Time will tell...