This is my first time posting but I'm at my wits end and don't know where to turn. All my problems stems from the BM. She is not a very nice person and is so destructive to my 2 step-kids (SD11, SS20). She does things behind my husbands back and tells the kids not to tell him because he will be mad at them. She brought them to therapy without my husband's knowledge to have them work through their fear of him and his anger issues. If you met my husband you would laugh at either of those descriptions. When we first got together she called all the shots and he took it.