I just joined this site to see if I might gain any knowledge about having to deal with my kids and my husband, their step dad....I just want to say that I am suprised at how many nasty snide remarks are being made about the step children! They have lost life as they knew it and you expect them to adjust to your ways and be lovely? While kids should be respectful of adults..their real parents are the ones that are supposed to be teaching them that. Did you think it was going to be easy having a strange kid show up at your home for however the custody battle was settled?