My family has had a very hard week.

The day after Mother's Day I get a call from my brother at almost midnight telling me that our dad had a massive heart attack. He had been having chest pains for several days and no one could get him to go in to see the doctor. He did not make it, he died almost instantly

I need outside opinions on a couple of issues. I know my views and opinions can be skewed occasionally due to my past with people, so...

First question...my DH was gone for 4 days this weekend on his biannual man trip with his buddies. MIL kept SS7 for him since it was our weekend to have kids and I won't keep him for that long, I figure if he's not with DH he needs to be with is mother.

What do you think of the statement, "Not being biologically related to a child doesn't make you any less of a parent. Being a real parent isn't in the dna, it's in the heart."?

I asked my DH what he thought and he just said he agreed. I asked him if he thought that you can be a parent to any child you want as long as it's in your heart, no matter how many obstacles there are? He said, yes, he thinks so. Then I just said that if he really thought about it and had specific examples I think he'd answer differently, but ok.

DH is wanting to switch jobs/departments at work. He currently works a regular 8-5, but he hates his manager and a lot of the job. He is considering switching to another department, but would have to work from 5:15am-2:00pm.

I understand why he wants to switch, but he’s worked that shift before and he was miserable, tired and grumpy constantly due to being a night person. I have reminded him of this and then just stated that I guess he needs to “pick his misery”.