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I just don't think it's fair.

Colorado Girl's picture

Submitted by Colorado Girl on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 9:57pm

Biodad filed a motion for a new hearing...

I am just not ready to go thru this again.

I just don't think I have what it takes. He is not paying child support and my son goes to therapy twice a month. I pay for it all. Now more attorneys fees on top of the ones he never reimbursed for even though he was ordered.

I am so, so sad tonight. Sad

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The Principlist's picture

Submitted by The Principlist on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 10:03pm

Can your attorney put in a request to the Judge to have him reimburse the already accrued fees before proceeding further. Can't they do something since he has yet to abide by the ruling? I feel your frustration and I send you a big cyber-hug. ((((((HUGS)))))

Just because one opens her legs twice, does not a mother make! ~ ME ~ }:-P

Colorado Girl's picture

Submitted by Colorado Girl on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 10:13pm

I just got it.... not even an hour ago.

It's not fair and I am just at a loss how he can continue to do whatever feels like doing with zero consequence.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

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Submitted by melis070179 on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 12:48pm

I really think he's gonna be made to follow to court order before being allowed a new one? I would look into that...I'm sorry he's such an ass. Isn't there some kind of 2 year rule? Or is he appealing to a higher court?

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

Rags's picture

Submitted by Rags on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 10:05pm

ass in court. You have an opportunity to nail him for penalty and interest on the court ordered stuff he has refused to pay.

I know that you would prefer to have him just do what he is supposed to do. We all would prefer that from our blended family opposition.

But, if they wont pull their heads out it is our job so shove their heads up their asses farther until they finally see the light and do the right thing.

Good luck and best regards,

Colorado Girl's picture

Submitted by Colorado Girl on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 10:14pm

and I am broken down.

I just don't know if I can do this again.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

B's picture

Submitted by B on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 12:04am

Oh CG... I feel so bad for you right now. Your reply to Rags has just brought tears to my eyes. My DH and I have been in your shoes, having to fight time and time again against someone who never adhered to the CO's. I know you're feeling broken down right now, and your spirit feels broken. This too shall pass. You've shown us all just how strong you are, and how fiercely you will fight to protect your son. You're feeling the shock of being hit from out of nowhere with this, and while it's making you feel down and broken at the moment, you'll be recharged soon.

Sending you lots of hugs...

Rags's picture

Submitted by Rags on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 10:29pm

Hang in there CG. You cannnn doooo itttttt!

In our case all things considered we do not have nearly as much to deal with as you and many of our STalk friends. BioDad just pretty much lets his Mommy handle it. She pays his obligations and they occasionally collaborate to be a royal PITA.

It is not so hard to hold them accountable when they only crawl out of their holes once every 3-5years.

Best regards,

Sita Tara's picture

Submitted by Sita Tara on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 11:14pm

What an idiot. I agree with all above. Your atty should request he pay for the previous court ordered fees for you before he gets to drag you into more.

Isn't that just amazing? This guy would rather pay an atty than his obligations to his child.

Loser!

"When you take charge of your life, there is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life." ~Geoffrey F. Abert

Anon2009's picture

Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 11:18pm

and I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers.

Colorado Girl's picture

Submitted by Colorado Girl on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 1:23pm

he waited until the very last possible day. Today is the 30 day threshhold, and he did it two days ago.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

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Submitted by sarahbernheart on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 7:06am

hang on, you are stronger than you know.
and like Rags said you are doing it for your son, time for the mamma claws to come out.
hugs to you.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

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Submitted by Dawn-Moderator on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 7:19am

I know you'll get through it because you have to!! You did great the first time so I know you can do it again.

Hang in there. My thoughts will be with you.

Dawn

BMJen's picture

Submitted by BMJen on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 8:15am

but you and I both continue to go through crap like this for our boys because we, well, we have to! LOL!

You'll make it. It's tiring, it's expensive, and it's ridiculous.

I second the notion that it's pitiful he'd rather pay attorney fees than support his own child.

Where do these losers come from, and how do good girls end up with them from time to time?

Harleygal's picture

Submitted by Harleygal on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 8:39am

But CG it's time to get tough. Have his ass thrown in jail. You seems like a really nice person, but you need to get that attitude that you had with the BM that night when you threw her on the floor and rightfully so. He needs an attitude adjustment.

"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac

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Submitted by BridgingTheGap on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 9:44am

I know you're tired of all the fussing and fighting. But you can get through this! Do it for your son. Think of how happy you're going to be when this is all said and done.

Counter sue for attorney's fees and bring it to the judge's attention that he STILL has yet to pay the fees from the last ruling. Stand up for yourself and your son and get your dues. If he cant provide for his chid then he shouldn't have the money to give away at some attorney's office

Angel's picture

Submitted by Angel on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 9:52am

of court????? Can you take him to Small Claims Court for what he owes you???? That is for starters.

Hang in there Colorado.

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Submitted by now4teens on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 10:28am

If so, there has to be some repercussion for him filing so soon after this ruling.

I'd check with your lawyer before you get too worried...

This may qualify him for harrassment!

"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"

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Submitted by sunshine on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 10:33am

what a complete jerk that ex of yours is. Cant you file a Motion for Contempt if he hasnt done what he is suppose to doing? Stay strong. I think the judge has already seen what an idiot he is and that impression will stay with the judge im sure! HUGS to you!

Sia's picture

Submitted by Sia on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 11:20am

believe this is happening again...what is wrong with this idiot? HUGS

Colorado Girl's picture

Submitted by Colorado Girl on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 1:27pm

I am just spent. I haven't spoken to my lawyer yet so I don't even know the next course of action. He doesn't do appeals which means I have to retain a new one.

All those fears and emotions are boiling and my cup runneth over. I am so down today.

I.do.not.want.to.do.this.again.

Bottom line. I know I have to. Just don't want to. Sad

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley