I just signed onto this blog and not sure if anyone will see me. I am a step mom to an 8 year old boy. I have been his step mom over 4 years now and from day one I have had the issue of him going through times of thinking I am not nice to him. He says I'm rude, I ignore him, and I am not loving to his bio mom. The funny thing is I think we have a good relationship. He is not an affectionate kid and so I tend to not be as affectionate with him and wait for his signals. Nothing worse than giving a child a hug who tells you not to and pulls away.