Words of Wis-dumb! BM code.

I have found, by reading blogs over the past couple of years here, that alot of BM's say the exact same things to our DH's/BF, skids, or us. Here are some of my fav.'s. Feel free to join in. " Your nothing but a deadbeat dad". " I can't get pregnant/on BC" (before trapping some DH's) " Your dad must not want to see you, or he would come to pick you up." " Your dad only cares about his new family now." " Your going to grow up to be a deadbeat~JUST LIKE YOUR FATHER." " Your new daddy cares about you more." " We can't afford anything, cause your dad does not pay support". " I was DH's FIRST" (this covers everything) " I'm the skids mother, you are nothing" " I need help with........" (they always need something from DH)

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My personal fav

is "DH is still in love with me, we just can't together b/c of the SM". }:)

"youre just a part time parent"

"you cant love (SM)"

im sure i will be able to think of more

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

I have a few more.

"He's not your REAL Dad."

"It is not fair that you have (insert name brand here) shoes, clothes, etc .... and you sister and brothers don't"

"Does your Mom still love me?"

"You would not have those nice things and get to do the things you do if your Mom did not marry a guy with rich parents"

"I can't afford to feed your little sister and brothers or buy them clothes because I have to pay CS on you"

"Talk to your Mom and get her to quit making me pay CS"

"If you loved me you would come visit even if you have to miss school. School is not as important as time with your family"

To the Judge after asking that my (StepDad's) income be considered to lower his CS: "What difference does it make if I live in a house my parents own and don't pay rent?"

Calling five different times in an hour and asking: "Are you sure he has not had a tetanus shot? We are on a camping trip and don't want to have to drive for three hours to the hospital for a shot just because he got a fish hook in his leg."

etc, etc, etc ..................... The IDIOT quotes go on and on.

Best regards,

I nearly coughed up my coffee laughing at those!!

My favorite idiot-BM quotes are:

"SM, you are incapable of loving these kids because you didn't give birth to them"- this is from the same woman who told my DH TO HIS FACE that the ONLY reason she wanted custody of the kids was for his $$$$

"DH is still in love with ME (BM)" -make me want to puke :sick:

"I'm the BM, so I have more rights than you. You have NO rights to these kids, (DH)" -Umm, he pays you child support, follows the court order, calls the kids every night, sees them EOW (at that time), loves them, provides for them, is there for them, and is their bio-father- yes he DOES have rights to them BM!!!

This is when DH would call the kids nightly to say hi to them when he had EOW, and BM would pick up the phone but say so DH and the kids could hear, "SD's, it's your prostitute-loving father (HUH? Where'd she come up with that one :? ) or "SD's, the s**tbag wants to talk to you!" -first of all, he was COMPLETELY faithful to her and never cheated or had any interest in prostitutes. Second, what kind of parent says stuff like that to their kids? Make me want to puke again :sick:

Rags, you ARE SS's TRUE dad. A real parent would NEVER say stuff like what SS's sperm donor says to their kid. You are always there for your son, and give him love and discipline. Sperm donor and his family sound like nutjobs. You, SS and your wife have my best wishes as you deal with these loons.

And they think we and the CPs are the ones screwing up the Skids

Anon,

Good to see that you are keeping up the worlds oldest profession. At least according to your DH's XW. :sick:

Thanks for the compliment, we try but sometimes BioDad and the extended PaternalBioFamily make it so hard for us to ignore and to easy to ridicule them.

We try to never make disparaging remarks about my SS's sire/SpermFamily within his range of hearing. Unfortunately you can't hide how much of an idiot his BioDad and family is from him for ever and he is figuring it out on his own.

On one hand it is satifying for him to realize the truth on his own and on the other it is sad to see the realization dawn on him.

Best regards,

I have one

"If you don't like riding the bus, tell your dad he has to buy you airplane tickets or you won't come see him" the kids had no problem riding the bus, with me, across the united states. BM just trying to make us pay more. then there is, "she killed your dog" of course referring to me (the dog got hung on her chain when BM tied her up)
"your dad doesn't love you, he cheated on me"
Making the decision to have a child is momentous~ It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking outside of your body~

ha

how about OH we HAVE to get together to talk about what we need to do with OUR SON..
this from a woman who kicked THEIR son out of HER house when he was 12 1/2!

"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

OH MY

That is a MONTHLY comment to FH from BM around OUR house. "WE need to get together and discuss OUR son!" BARF~ how about instead YOU (BM) need to get your sh*t together and start being a PARENT to your son instead of worrying about getting high and trying to catch your loser boyfriend cheating on you!

I also hear "I am your REAL MOMMY, she is just your Dad's girlfriend". (as if he doesn't know this??? DUR)

"When you come HOME we will go to the toy store" (sad she has to resort to bribery)

"Have fun at your DAD's house, I will pick you up and bring you HOME in 2 days" too bad we have MORE custody.

She has this thing about making sure he feels like HER house is HOME and our house is "a slumber party" (her words). Way to make your own child feel uncomfortable in his own home, right? I don't think it works though. SS is too smart. He knows he has two homes.

Or how about "you never should have left me, you just thought the grass was going to be greener on the other side" FH response "IT IS!!!"

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ ; )

BM

Always telling anyone within ear shot what a "perfect" Mother she is-after abandoning Zippy at his Dad's at ages 2-4-12 and finally at 14 (DH won custody as her life is unpredictable-gee do ya think?).

Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!

"im a poor single mom"

oh the tears just flow from me when she says that one. yes, a poor single mother by her choosing w a $700 a month paycheck. yeah, she has it so tough.

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

My favorite is

when DH asked her to leave his family alone...like not taking her BF to visit with Dh's grandma " I will not deprive anyone of my friendship"

WTF!

ooh ooh, i thought of another one

How about this.... Skids tell us their older brother is molesting them, BM refuses to get her son, not my Dh child, help and says SS11 is the one doing the molesting. (so she can say he is learning it from our house!!!)Still doesn't get any of the kids help!!!
Making the decision to have a child is momentous~ It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking outside of your body~

or how about

how do you work the lawn mower!!!!!!

Jealous much?

BM shouted this at me once. "What do you know with your college degree?!?"

The circumstances were SD had been sick while we had her over the weekend. She had a fever and it kept breaking with ibuprofen and coming back and I looked up online that if a low grade fever continues for 72 hours take the kid to the doctor. So BM was given this information as the 72 hours were up shortly after she got SD back. She calls later that day all proud to tell us SD's fever broke (well, duh, it did that a number of times over the weekend). So she waits two days before taking SD to the doctor. She calls FH from the pharmacy to demand he come and bring her money for the medicine. He basically tells her to eff off. She comes over and yells at me for us not taking SD to the doctor and letting her suffer. wtf? when she was the one who waited an additional TWO DAYS?

Apparently her reasoning was, since I don't have kids, just a college degree I was the idiot of the situation. When any inbred, moron, hillbilly like herself can drop a kid as easily as take a dump, therefore elevating them to Dr. Mom M.D.
whatever!

More BUTT NUGGETS of Wiz-Dumb-Ass from BioDad.

"Uh -- you mean I should not have the kid in the room during a phone hearing?" -- After I heard kids playing in the background on the speaker phone during an official Court telephone hearing while SS was visiting BioDad and asked the Judge to have him remove my SS from the room so he did not have to hear how big of a DipShit his father is. Why I care I have no idea.

"I was only arrested for carrying a gun in his diaper bag, I was never convicted!" -- More testimony from BioDad during a Custody/Support/Visitation hearing. Who the hell carry's an illegal (or legal for that matter) weapon in their infant's diaper bag?

"My low-rider is a moniker of my past and I will sell it so that I can support my son" -- BioDad's closing address to the Court during the first Custody/Support/Visitation hearing. Guess what? The low-rider is still in his (mother's) garage 15 years later.

"What difference does it make who pays the CS?" -- When presented with subpoenaed information from the CSS showing that his mother was actually the one paying CS during one of the court hearings.

"I never got the notification to come to court so how can you charge me retroactive CS?" -- After he physically ran from the process server.

"I am not a statutory rapist. Other than my son's mother the only other 16yo I have slept with since becoming an adult I was married to (when he was 23)" -- He married the 16yo he left my wife for (and my wife was 16 when SS was born .. BD was 21)two weeks before the first Custody/Visitation/Support hearing so that the judge would not throw his serial statutory child rapist ass in jail.

Stay tuned ..... More to come as they burn through in to my conscious memory.

All subject to the accuracy of my memory of course ….

Best regards,

You care because

you are a good person. Sperm donor sounds a lot like the BM in my situation- still living off mommy & daddy :sick: while you and your wife take good care of SS. I watch the Steve Wilkos show and sperm donor sounds a lot like a guy I saw on the show- a guy who married the girl he raped in order to avoid having his a** thrown in jail. It was disgusting :sick: but I like Steve Wilkos because he holds these whackos accountable. He stands up for the victims.

You're welcome for the compliment, btw.

How about:

You're not his step-mom, you're just DH's wife.

From the mouths of babes

My SD told me, "I feel sorry for men - they can never feel the love of having a child-!!" Now does that sound like something a 10 year old would say?

I think I was too stunned to address this at the time, and oh how I hope I never have to?!! DURR!!!

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

Heres a couple

BM "Your Dad and SM favor BS2 but I favor you" She told SD this and wrote it in a nasty letter she sent with SD, SD knew the letter by heart by the time she gave it to us.

Now that she is pregnant (due a month after me) "They don't favor him, he just needs more attention becuz he is a baby"
Well no sh**! She should have said this the first time. But of course she is just say this to cover her own ass, we all know SD is going to get the shaft big time when her baby arrives.

SD "Kids are should spend almost all their time with their moms" we all know that can right out of BMs mouth.

My response "No kids that are under 14 yrs stay with whomever can make a certain person believe them over the other parent. Kids that are over 14 yrs stay with the parent that gives them more stuff"

Sorry I know she is only 9 (10 in a couple months) but jeez it is the truth.

I know where you're coming from!

BM said stuff like that to my SDs right after she found out DH and I were expecting. She told them bulls**t like "your father will love your sibling more than he loves you." DH had to try to explain to them that this is just not the case, but that the baby will need more of his attention and but that he will continue to find time to spend with them 1-on-1 too. But because BM had said these lies to them so much, they believed it. Or, they pretended to believe it out of loyalty to her. We came up with ways in which we could get them involved with the baby once it arrived, i.e. help feed it, pick out its clothes for the day, help change the diapers, etc. so they could feel involved and important. I also came up with a list of simple things they could do to help us, but stored it in my head because DH wouldn't agree with it. This list entailed things like the SDs making their own beds, helping with the dishes, fixing their own snacks, getting themselves ready for bed, helping put laundry in the washer/dryer, pouring detergent in the washer, folding dry clothes and putting them in the right rooms, get themselves ready to go back to BM's (this was when we had visitation) and easy stuff like that. These chores might have been just easy, simple tasks, but they would have been a huge help to me once the baby arrived. Unfortunately, that did not happen, but in hindsight, it was good that DH and I had a plan so that while the baby would get more attention, the SDs would know that their Dad loves them all EQUALLY and wouldn't completely get the shaft. This might help your SD adjust/form a relationship with BS2 and your upcoming baby (congratulations, btw! ).

It really just bugs me that any parent would say this to their child. Children don't deserve to be put in the middle. When BM said this cr*p about DH favoring our upcoming baby over SDs, it bugged me. I think a lot of the stress that came from BM contributed to my miscarriage Children deserve to have a loving relationship with BOTH parents, stepparents (whether BMs like it or not) and siblings, both step-and biological (including half-siblings). If BMs don't like the fact that maybe our skids like us then tough luck, they shouldn't be taking it out on their kids. That is just evil and twisted.

Just my 2 cents.

I don't

let this stuff that she has been saying bother me anymore. When SD brought the letter home that said a lot of nasty things she took it out of her bag and stared walking towards my H with it. I said whats that? knowing it was from BM, since it was in her bag of clothes that was getting returned to us. She said " Oh its just for my Dad my mom said" Of course H read it and gave it straight to me. We had a talk with SD right then about it, SD just kept repeating sentences out of the letter word for word! I told SD to have her own thoughts, that when BM had another child she will be upset she ever said those things. Well now it seems BM is eating her words, trying to convince SD that she wouldn't be left out. It is going to be hard for her to undo those types of statements she drilled into SD for 2 1/2 yrs (since my son was born).

court tomorrow...she's constantly badmouthing DH and me!

"You're just a weekend warrior" (but she won't let him have any time during the week)

"I have custody and he just has visitation so I don't need to tell him anything."

She changed their school (for the second time) without giving my husband notice, and when he brought it up she said, "It's not like I have to run it by you!" (well, actually, yeah you kinda do, since they have joint legal custody)

She also told them the only reason their dad married me is because I was pregnant-- not true, and pretty funny since they had two kids together and he never married her!

I could go on and on but I just needed to vent a bit. WE are going for primary physical custody of these wonderful children, to get them out a situation where they are used as collateral. We just want to give them a better shot at life, but people see it like "oh you evil people, trying to take these kids away from their mom!"
It's so hard!!
-janis

oh one more

she told the kids she couldn't go christmas shopping because she had to save money to go to court! how about she gets off her butt and gets a job. She has two other kids under 2 yrs old and neither she nor her husband work!

I love this one...

"You are obligated to support me." :barf: She says this to DH yet turns around and cries about what a poor, hard working single mom she is.

"You don't have to listen to secondwife. She's not your mother."

"You NEVER help pay for ANYTHING! You are so useless!"

BMs are so awesome. :barf:

best ones, but there are so many

"Who will pay me child support if you die?"

"No I'm over you- I'm out smoking, and drinking and whoring!"

"Why can you just be the bigger person and fund A's lunch account. Money is tight right now. I know I just bought them a Wii last week, but why can't you just do it?"

"That vacation you're going on with your new wife- that should have been MINE! I should be going to Mexico."

"Of course I tell the girls everything I feel about you and your wife. I'm making them empathetic people. There's nothing wrong with that."

I thought of a couple more.

"Why would you do this to me?????" sobbing when FH told her about the custody hearing she didn't bother to show up for
Gee, you have history of drug abuse, why didn't we "do this to you" sooner, is my only question!

Before she heard about the hearing she told everyone:
"FH is going to go to jail any minute now for not paying CS." Uh, he stopped paying because you were ordered to give him a measly $50 a month instead.

"You only wanted custody so you wouldn't have to pay child support."

"Your daddy tricked me out of custody."

"This is all stepmasochist's fault."

"My car is in the shop can I borrow your truck?"

"I bought SD Guitar Hero for Christmas, can I borrow your Playstation?"

"What are your plans for SD's birthday? I've got food stamps I'll bring the cake!" :o

Can't get enough of this one

"You only wanted custody so you wouldn't have to pay child support."

I think all parents who pay support hear this one.

OH YEAH

How about....
" That should be MY house, and MY new car, you stole MY life"... excuse me? I WORK anddon't expect FH to support me, it's called TEAM EFFORT. If he was the only one working (like you wanted) we would not have a new house and a new car... duh. YOu get what you can afford.

OR...

"I don't want you and your girlfriend playing house with MY son" oh that one used to get to me... now she is "playing house" with her loser boyfriend...

WAIT there's more...

"I don't want MY son growing up thinking that HER family is HIS family"... well, stupid... IT IS HIS FAMILY.

Then there is always...

"I don't want HER hugging him and doing MOM things with him, I AM HIS MOM." oh, okay, you would rather I ignore him in his own home and only give affection to my girls so he can REALLY feel like an outcast in his own home... nothin like putting this kids well being FIRST. IDIOT.

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ ; )

wow, DIS.

BM has said all of the same things to us too, sounds like the same person. Like I said, it's some kind of code they have programmed into their heads, like the Stepford Wives , but in reverse!! LOL. "We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand."~ Randy Pausch

Logic from an insane manbeast

She does not really say too much to BF for fear of him telling her off, so she uses SS to get to him. Here are a few that were lovelies!

"I know your life is "really bad," and I wish I could be with you to make it better, but just know mommy loves you."

"God did not make you strong. He made you smart, funny and interesting. So you do not have to be strong."

"You're dad is a liar. He lied about me in court to get custody of you."

"I will not lie to my child" As she informs him at 3 yrs old there is no Santa, Easter Bunny, etc. But she told him there's a tooth fairy???!!!! Go figure!!

More words of Wiz-Dumb-Ass from the Sperms.

"if you were a better wife he would not stray" -- SpermGrandma to my wife when she was a 16 yo single Mom by SpermGrandMa's 22 yo son.

Upon hearing from my SS that his Mom (my wife) had passed the CPA exam SpermGrandMa said: -- "I took an accounting class at the community college. It was not that hard so I don't know what the big deal is about your mom passing the CPA exam."

Upon hearing from my SS that his Mom (My Wife) had finished her BS in Accounting/Management SpermGrandMa said: -- "A Bachelors degree? That is a two year degree right".

Upon hearing from my SS that his Mom (My Wife) had finished her MBA SpermGrandMa said: -- "A Masters degree? That is a two year degree right?"

"Your Mom and Step Dad are spoiled and who cares if they both have MBAs. Your Dad is a licensed plumber."-- While my SS was telling them about the big Party that we had to celebrate his Mom's graduation with her MBA. At the time SS was 10yo and was excited to tell them about the party that he and I planned for his Mom and his excitement about his Mom's accomplishment.

Education has always been one of the primary focus's of our family and continues to be with the onus shifted to the Skid's finishing of high school and moving on to college.

A little historical context to frame the above Wiz-Dumb-Ass quotes.

My wife was a 16yo high school student when SS was born. BioDad was 21 or 22. My in-laws refused to give their consent to a marriage (the only smart thing my I-Ls have ever done in my opinion). They should have filed statutory rape charges but that is another story.

BioDad and his worthless hag of a POS mother (SpermGrandMa) tried to get my wife to drop out of high school and "be a good wife" to DipShit BioDad. When BioDad dumped my then 18yo wife (before she was my wife) and abandoned his kid (my SS) for another 16yo, SpermGrandMa ridiculed my wife by telling her "if you were a better wife he would not stray".

Like BioDad's inability to keep his Johnson in his jeans was her fault. Like it was her fault that he went on to continue to advance his career perpetrating statutory rape on more 16yo children.

THEY WERE NEVER MARRIED YOU IGNORANT COW (SpermGrandMa)! SHE WAS NEVER HIS WIFE!

Shortly after BioDad left her for yet another 16yo, my wife graduated from high school, took SS and left the state to enroll in an accelerated BS program. She was a single teen mom, out of state with no family and no support. All so she could attend an accelerated program in order to be able to provide a better life for herself and her son sooner. She finished her BS with honors and a double major in Management and Accounting. She went on to finish her MBA with honors and ultimately passed the CPA exam. She now works as a CPA and Manager for large CPA firm.

She was the prototypical single teen mom on welfare. But, she used the system as it is intended, to prepare herself to be self sufficient.

My wife and I met and married when she was a single teen welfare mom in college.

I am truly blessed to have her and our amazing (though continuously frustrating) son (SS) in my life. I am a lucky man and things will continue to wonderful for the Rags family if we can just keep my SS from having his regular flare ups of Cranio-Rectal syndrome. :jawdrop:

BioDad went on to father three more (a total of four) out of wedlock children with two more young mothers (a total of three Moms). He did eventually get his Plumbing License and now works predominantly for cash under the table so he can keep his verifiable income as low as possible in order to minimize the CS he pays for his illegitimate children.

But, his Mommy loves him and he can do no wrong in her eyes.

If I had done that crap my Mom would have pulled an Elena Bobbitt on me and would have made damned sure I worked my ass off so that every dime I earned went to my kids and their mothers.

More to come .....

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that pretty much sums it up for me on this topic.

My 3 faves:

1. "I'm the mother of your children, how could you be so heartless as to (not fix my lawn mower, not walk my dog, not drive me to the airport, etc.)"

2. " I'm a single mom." (This from someone who gets a whopping $1,600 in child support per month for two kids.)

3. "Your dad won't pay for your college tuition, ask him why." This she said to SD16 when she asked why she couldn't go to an expensive private college. BM apparently expects my husband to foot 100% of the tuition for a college that costs $40,000/year. So apparently he won't do this because he's too cheap, not because he's not FRICKIN RICH after paying $1,600/month in child support for 5 1/2 years! ARRRRRGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!

how about "can you mail

how about
"can you mail child support early"
BM has NO job, lives on welfare and disability checks and don;t forget child support!. BM totally screws the system so she can do nothing with her life but sit home in a sh*t hole rusted trailer.