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His Past Affecting Our Present

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Submitted by ChaiLatte on Fri, 06/11/2010 - 8:12am

I love my husband, but nights like this make me think that I'm really not cut out for this. DH and I have been trying to conceive for, well forever. Last night, because of something on television, he innocently began reminiscing about the child birthing experience with BM. I instantly started feeling cold and distant. He went on to describe her behavior, and warn me of how I would react to pain and medication and such, based upon her experience. I was flooded with so many awful feelings. Anger, pain, and humiliation to name a few.

Rant About Boys And Bathroom Habits

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Submitted by ChaiLatte on Mon, 06/07/2010 - 2:46pm

Do boys ever outgrow peeing on the floor? What is so hard about keeping your pee stream inside the very large porcelaine target??? I am not a neat freak, but this is getting ridiculous. Is a bathroom that doesn't smell like a truck stop urinal too much to ask?! I don't have external equipment but it really doesn't seem like a complicated process to get the pee inside a large round bowl. So if you're peeing on the floor constantly, it either being done on purpose, you're lazy, or you're disgusting. Besides mopping every day (which I am) what more can I do keep from losing my mind??

The Burden of Proof

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Submitted by ChaiLatte on Thu, 06/03/2010 - 4:07pm

How do you handle when you are suspicious a child has done something malicious but you have no proof? I think bringing the issue up to DH is only going to result in his getting defensive and making excuses. If that happens, the problem will still be there but things will be worse between DH and I. I can't imagine there's many instances where an accusation has been made without concrete evidence and the situation has gone well for the stepparent. How do you handle this if it occurs in your home?

So What Makes It All Worth It?

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Submitted by ChaiLatte on Fri, 01/22/2010 - 12:24am

For me: Its tossing and turning at 2:00 a.m., and needing to reach over just to touch him, just to know he's there. He may be snoring like a bear, but he's there. It's him touching me on my cheek for no reason at all while he's talking on the phone. It's a smack on the butt when I bend over. It's hearing that I'm beautiful when I'm not wearing any makeup and my hair is atrocious. It's the time he's used his lunch break to pick me up and take me out for sushi when I know it's not convenient for him. I guess for me, what makes it all worth it, is the little things that make me smile.

Entitled 11 Year Old Sets Mother On Fire

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Submitted by ChaiLatte on Thu, 01/07/2010 - 12:11pm

Constant indulging combined with an absence of rules does not end well. This woman probably never thought her daughter would go this far. Not that she deserved to be set on fire, but why would you indulge a child to the point of letting your 11 yo have a 15 yo bf that sleeps over??? They were fighting over cigarettes!

http://www.myfoxphoenix.com/dpps/news/dpgonc-daughter-set-mother-on-fire...

Why Is It So Hard For Bio-Parents To See The Positive?

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Submitted by ChaiLatte on Wed, 01/06/2010 - 10:35am

You have freed yourself from a previous relationship where your needs were not fulfilled. You likely were cheated on, used, abused, and disrespected. You have entered a new relationship with someone who is nothing like your previous partner. This person adores you, is faithful, and accepts that you have a child with someone else. So does this make you happy? It seems, only for a brief moment.