SS15 came to live with us almost 4 years ago since then we have struggled an up hill battle against the foundation that was laid for him by BM. Education, maturity, independence, respect, discipline...etc. BM had taken him, married and disappeared when he was about 2 she resurfaced when SS was about 9, after she divorced. Living in another state from my DH and she was looking for financial and parenting "support"...it was difficult and signs of inappropriate parenting were showing and DH suggested he live with us...BM was not happy and showed it.