SD17 came out as gay last night
We just had SDs with us this past weekend, and she didn't say anything. We got this text from BM this morning:
"SD17 wanted to share some news but wanted me to share it. She's gay. S he came out to me last night. It was kind of a surprise to me, but also not. It will be hard for her as such a small population to date, but I'm glad she was born in a more accepting time. She'd love to hear from you with calls or messages of support. Of course she'll be asleep for a while"
Me, her, and DH had a bit of a group text about how we're glad she felt comfortable to come out, joking we don't have to worry about teen pregnancy, etc. I am all for it and happy she feels like she can now be her genuine self. She is out to friends at school, and now us.
She is still asleep (lucky girl) so I sent her the following text:
"Hi SD17, I know you're asleep but wanted to text you right away. Your mom just texted us your big news, congratulations!!! I'm so glad you felt comfortable enough to come out, and that now you can be yourself. I want you to know that I love and support you no matter what. You're a wonderful, smart, king, funny, and loving young woman and any lady would be SO lucky to have you! I'm so happy for you. I'm ALWAYS here if you need to talk, even something you don't want to talk to your mom and dad about. Love you!"
I'm going to give her a call later when she wakes up. Maybe this will bring her out of her shell a little! Although she lives in the south (Charlotte), it is a pretty open town. Her extended family is very liberal and supportive so I'm sure she will have no issues there. I'm happy for her, and so is DH.
I've heard about PFLAG so I think we are going to check that out and see how to best support SD17. Any feedback from anyone else with gay skids appreciated!
Edit: She just texted me back "Aw thank you CBCharlotte that means a lot! That was a really nice text 
love you too <3 <3"
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HA I love this! Keeping it
HA I love this! Keeping it in the family
Well, I'm not surprised. She
Well, I'm not surprised. She hasn't ever shown interest in boys, aside from once or twice she thought the actor Miles Teller was cute. It doesn't seem to be a "phase", she has emphatically said she is gay, not bi. But if she does turn out to be, then so be it. I think people figure out who/what gender they like as they get older. Maybe someday she may meet a man who she feels for, I have no idea, just like I could one day find myself having feelings for a woman, who knows!
Thanks, this is great advice!
Thanks, this is great advice! I'm kind of of the "OK, you're gay, cool so what are we getting for dinner" mind set. Not a big deal, just a part of who you are. I just want her to be happy and comfortable in her own skin, which I'm sure will be easier now that she doesn't have to "hide" part of who she is
I wonder if it is because
I wonder if it is because women abusers are not taken seriously sometimes? For example, a man is rarely believed if he says a woman abused him, maybe women have the same problem with other women?
I think it's because Men and
I think it's because Men and Women don't "typically" fight physically. When you are dating someone of the same gender there is no thought of "you can't her because she is a girl, and you are a man" or the thought of a physically weaker sex. Much easier for a man to through blows at another man... and a woman at another woman. :? maybe?
I think BM was very wrong,
I think BM was very wrong, she should've told SD to tell you and DH herself, then you could've said all the nice things to her......
It would have been nice,
It would have been nice, however we won't see her in person again until August 10th. I'll call SD today and tell her everything over the phone!
No I wish! She missed Pride
No I wish! She missed Pride by a few days; Philly Pride is awesome. DH and I went to watch the parade (we live 2 blocks from the gayborhood here) and we had some drinks after with whoever was around at the new local bar
lol, gayborhood.
lol, gayborhood.
That's what it's called here.
That's what it's called here. They have rainbow crosswalks, rainbow street signs, the gay bars and shops, etc. It's even on google maps! Like Boystown in Chicago
That's kind of hilarious...
That's kind of hilarious... no offense meant... I'd love to visit!
None taken! It's a great
None taken! It's a great spot. Even though Philly is rough around the edges, it is very gay friendly. Pride is a city-wide event and people of all ages, genders, and orientations get into it. Come visit for Pride 2018!
What a wonderful message. I
What a wonderful message. I think it will bring her out of her shell more especially knowing you both support her.
My sister, her wife, SO and I take the train every year for Philly Pride
Always a wonderful day
My SD came out to me at 15,
My SD came out to me at 15, before she came out to anyone else. I'm from MA originally, and have always been open about how sexuality isn't even a thing for me. I was honored she felt comfortable enough with me to tell me. She worried about telling her dad, and I assured her she shouldn't. True to form, DH's response was, "sweet. Now I have someone to go to strip clubs with." He was kidding, but it lightened the mood for her.
I think your response was perfect. I was making dinner at the time and mine was, "oh? That's fantastic! Can you pass me that onion?"
PFLAG is a wonderful
PFLAG is a wonderful supportive organization. I found it very helpful when My DD came out as bi sexual (no gender preference) when she started college but I always knew. She felt she needed official coming out to me because she started dating her first serious GF when she started college (they lived together for 4 years afterwards ). She later ended up marrying a man and recently unexpectedly widowed. She now jokes that when she is ready to date again one day, she'll have much bigger dating pool than other people as she has no gender preference.
Do check pflag. Some great people there