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Submitted by cain8cody12 on Thu, 10/23/2014 - 12:10pm

Hello again......it has been while since I have posted as well.....life has been happening. My past blog posts will tell you some of my story. I am the BM of two boys 22 and 18 and SM to two girls 19 and 16. My husband and I have had some major issues with his girls over the last 7 years to the point I disengaged about 2 years ago. During this time I literally found myself again and began doing things I enjoyed, formed new friendships, rekindled old ones, and became the person I used to be.

Not sure what to do! My Mind is REELING!!!!!

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Submitted by cain8cody12 on Wed, 08/17/2011 - 10:08am

Hi all, it has been a while since I last posted as things have been going along ok. Little background, I am bio mom to 15 and 19 sons, and stepmom to 16 and 13 sd's. My dh and I have been together for 4 years and married for a little over 1.

My oldest sd has turned into a royal nightmare. She is staying out all night, taking off in the middle of the night when we are asleep, being completely disrespectful to her dad (and me but that is nothing new), basically doing whatever the hell she wants to when she wants to.

To all the SM's out there who feel their husband is inappropriately affectionate with his daughters!!!!!!!

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Submitted by cain8cody12 on Thu, 05/26/2011 - 10:40am

I started counselling with my husband over this issue and a few others. The way I approached it with him was this "Would you feel uncomfortable with your 16 or 13 year old daughter laying on top of you with your parents in the room?" "Would you look at a man as a pervert if he looked over 40 and was holding hands with a teenage girl in public?" If you answered yes to either of these questions, how to you expect me to react when it happens in front of me all the time.

Am I being too touchy about this?

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Submitted by cain8cody12 on Sat, 09/25/2010 - 8:43am

Hi all, I have a really weird question. Ok, a little background.... My husband and I have 4 kiddos between us. I have bs's 18 and 14, and he has bd's 15 and 12. We have split 50/50 custody of his girls and my boys are with us 100%. We used to have a very active sex life and probably still would except that I refuse to have intimate relations with him when his girls are with us. Ok, sounds stupid I know but this is the reason. We dated for almost 3 years before moving in together. He basically lived with me and my boys during this time except EOW when he had his girls.

Wow, when DF steps up to disclipline, I get the blame,lol.

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Submitted by cain8cody12 on Wed, 06/23/2010 - 2:10pm

:jawdrop: So, my DF and I are to be married on July 5th a little over a week away. We have gone through a lot with his BD's 15 and 12 in the last 2 years. He went through the guilt daddy syndrome and all that niceness,lol. Well now that we basically have his girls 24/7 365, I sat him down and told him I was not gonna live like this anymore. I told him if he wanted to continue down this path that was fine with me.

Am I being selfish?

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Submitted by cain8cody12 on Tue, 04/13/2010 - 1:45pm

Okay, so a little background. My fiance and I have been together for 3 years. We are getting married on July 5th of this year. We moved in together last September and it has been a big adjustment for me. I have two bs's. One is 18 the other 14. I have raised them by myself their entire lives. He has 2 bd's, one is 15 the other 12. I have known both of them most of their lives. He has been divorced from their bm for almost 2 years. They had a really long drawn out divorce that lasted 28 months. The divorce papers state 50/50 custody with each parent getting the children on Friday to Friday.