So partners ex gone 6 years multiple step dads to the kids in between and multiple cancelled holidays has messaged OH asking to borrow the kids suitcases to take them away for a few days. She doesn't work as has sold one of my OH properties he bought during their marriage and is living off the proceeds whilst not working, only having the kids 30% of the time if that and feeding them takeaways constantly whilst we're working full time juggling childcare because she's getting her eyebrows done and still cooking wholesome meals from scratch.