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Disengagement 101???

Well, I have a ss13 & a sd9. I've kinda figured out how to physically and financially disengage...but I can't seem to figure out how to get to a place where the stuff that goes on with them does not bother me. Currently I am sitting in my dark bedroom trying to shut myself out! Ss is facing expulsion from school, sd falls out with dh on a regular because of her tantrums (did I mention sd is 9 yrs old???), yet they both just got the pleasure of going over to their grandmother's house for I don't know how long (because I'm disengaged)!!!

abbreviations

I'm relatively new and so love this new found sanctuary, but I need help with some of the codes such as dd or ds Can someone help me out? Thanks

discipline difference

Ok, i realize that adjoining families are a sensitive issue. It is an adjustment for all parties involved. I've raised my biological children as a single mom the best way I knew and know, with the structure that I come from. Simply put, I had rules and when they were broken, correction was implemented. Take that however you want. However, pouting nor disrespect was EVER tolerated nor overlooked. I have 3 bio-boys. Two are of adult age and in college and exemplary young men.

culture shock

My ss & sd have been with us now for 6 months. I don't reqquire a lot but that you go to school, keep house clean and good hygiene (well I don't think that's a lot). However, they are having the hardest time with it. EVERY week dh and I receive calls from the schools (middle school and elementary) saying that something is wrong with them physically and they're trying to come home. Mind you I also have a bio-son the same age as my ss. My son knows better. SCHOOL IS NOT AN OPTION has become my mantra! I've never had to deal with this kind of thing and it's driving me nuts!

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