Ok...so I met my fiancé just under a year ago. His wife committed suicide in their family home five years ago. He found her. Kids were SD19 and SS15 . SD had not left the house for eighteen months when I met them. Literally, not for anything at all. She had a skin condition caused by not showering. SS went to mental health unit via police/ambulance the night I moved in. His depression turned out to be schizophrenia. Anyway.