Need someone to spell it out.
Going to try to keep this short--
It's my kids bday. We have tickets for. Football game. 4. Two for his friend & him. We have stepkids on that weekend. I could only get 4 tickets. Husband said get them, we will figure it out. Husband mentioned taking his kids to their BM house for the evening, saying we have plans & will pick them up the next day. He is fairly okay that. I say fairly bc he suggested that, but said it in a jesting way, but told me- buy the 4 tickets. I would normally say Boys all go... Have fun, BUT... My step son has been over the top rude, ungrateful & unenthusiastic about ANYTHING we do for him that I just can't bring myself to even suggest that. We only have a few days to decide & it's all I can think about... What to do???? I've always poured out for the dang kid regardless of his terribleness... However I'm sick of complaining about it & us not actively doing something to emplore the step kid to do better & face that he cannot keep acting like a self entitled brat. (For example see my blog post "miserable movie") I think I know the answer, I'm just struggling breaking the pattern. The pattern that has only made him think he will get regardless of his behavior.
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My questions are: 1) Is it a
My questions are:
1) Is it a game you would enjoy seeing?
2) What does DS want? It is his bday, after all.
I would love to go! My son
I would love to go!
My son would prefer his stepbrother not even be around ever, because he's rude & a downer to be around... But my son knows parents say what goes & he respects that... Stepson would LOVE to go... But who knows if he would be an ass or not about it, mostlikely yes bc it's my sons bday & he can't handle someone getting attention... But he does love football.
Then Hun, you have your
Then Hun, you have your answer. Skids need to stay at BM's that night. It is not about SS, this is BS's birthday. You would have included him if you could but those tickets were not cheap (I am assuming) and you have the right to go as well with your husband and kid.
It's hard breaking that
It's hard breaking that pattern. If he wasn't such a shit, I would say he's going, girls & I will do girl stuff, etc... But he has continued to get worse & worse with his rude ass attitude.
Ugh guilt with parenting sucks. Guilt with step parenting is a million times worse! Thanks for confirming my own thoughts.
Either your son invites
Either your son invites another friend along (or you do) and you take your son and friends with your DH staying home with his kid or his kid has to spend the evening at BMs and you, your DH, and your son & friend go to game as originally planned.