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Submitted by Bradymom on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 11:37am

It is...

HURTING PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE.

Someone pops of hurtful to me, I mosey on over to their blog. Whoa. Sad I'm sorry for the pain you are going through also. I'd like I lash out & dish it back, because I have serving utensils... I've learned that hurting when I'm hurting only brings one thing... A need for more Kleenex. & I'm already hurt enough my goodness. I came for support, not to be hurt more. Sheesh.

If the shoe fits, lace it up & by all means take it out for a run.

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Submitted by Bradymom on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 5:16am

She does not have a gambling addiction. She has a monthly budget. $10k. Disposable income. Monthly. Set aside for gambling. It's a hobby. I never said addiction. That doesn't include travel. Hotel. Shopping. That's in the slots & tables. Money in. That's nothing for them. To us it sounds extreme. To her it's not. A bread crumb is huge to an ant, it's not to a dog.

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Submitted by Bradymom on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 10:50pm

I continued to speak to them not because I have something to gain, I continued bc my parents are dead & I am sensitive to parents & that is probably why I allowed my MIL to run over me for a long period of time before I realized that had to stop & probably why when she said she wanted to invest in her new grand kids with paying the bill, I allowed it, even tho I initially said No. Because it did feel good, not to get a bill paid but to have grandparents for my kids. Yeah. That did feel good. My ex's parents weren't ever involved in my kids lives other than 2x a year, so yeah, it wasn't "usual" to hear those words. But it surely wasn't about money. I made the deal to pay $500 a month bc that's what my child support is. I didn't need the $. I had the child support signed straight into my attorneys trust account. When they started paying, I switched paperwork & started a savings account for my oldest child. Also when this was set up I was gainfully employed. (Not going into my DH employment, just keeping this separate about ME)

The highlight has been their behavior 3 1/2 years. Mainly 1 1/2 years since we had to talk to them about boundaries. We didn't even know they weren't paying until recently. They hadn't paid since 8/1. The behavior was also super highlighted when they asked the step kids to lie that was BEFORE we knew about the bill.

If I had so much to gain why would I call them on all this bullshit???

You don't get the FULL STORY in a blog not because people are being shady but bc it's just writing. I can't possibly give you every detail. But crap, to act as if you know my every motive, really? I have wealthy relatives, I could ask for people to pay my bills, I don't & I didn't do that here either.

Also I never called anyone vicious or attacking. I said hurtful. And it is. Hurtful. To me.

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Submitted by StarStuff on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 1:35pm

I'm sorry (((hugs))). I know you've been having a hard time lately; I don't think I've commented on your posts, but I have been following them. You're gonna be ok hun Smile

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Submitted by bi on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 2:57pm

I was deleting old blogs a few days ago, and came across one where a poster took a subject that had not a damn thing to do with money, welfare, or finances in ANY WAY AT ALL was accusing me of not being married to SO after 9 years and 2 kids so I could scam the system. yeah, ok. let me tell you, if I had welfare paying for everything, my life would be a lot easier! we don't get welfare and never have. but apparently if you have kids and live with the father but aren't married, you are a system abuser. whatever, bitch.

when I deleted that blog, I looked that poster up to see if she is even still here. she had one blog. she was bitching about her sd being pregnant and abusing welfare and looking for handouts everywhere and basically just being a trashy leech. so that explains why she blew up on me out of nowhere. she probably wanted to blow up on her sd but couldn't do it, for fear that daddy would be angry. so she took it out on me. someone who has worked since 14 and has never been dependant on govt handouts.

I agree, there is usually a reason for people's nasty attitudes that has NOTHING to do with you. (although there are a few people who are just plain bitches simply because that's all they know how to be).