In his defence, DH has done better than ever lately. He used to chat with her about things that had nothing to do with the kids & if she wasn't a psycho who twisted everything around & lied about is constantly this wouldn't be a big deal. So my policy is the less she knows the harder she has to work to twist her sick lies about us. DH didn't get this for a long time. Well, he came down with a horrible virus which destroyed our fishing plans (sad) & the dr told him it was very contagious. So we cancelled the SK visit. Kind of sucks that he's so sick I can't bask in this much. And then BM starts asking DH, 'oh, is it something you caught in Vegas? How was your trip? Blah blah blah,' to which DH responded, 'that doesn't have anything to do with the kids or visitation BM, i'll let you know when I'm well enough to arrange another visit.' Yay for DH, I smiled all day. As for SKs, we got them small souvenirs & we'll show them tons of pictures & tell them everything they want to know. And it probably will get back to BM through them. But it feels good to know that DH is finally creating some privacy for our marriage & our lives together.