A while back (few weeks ago ) my SO and I decided that our nights alone (hopefully uninterrupted) would start at 7pm instead of 8/830. That we'd put the kid to bed/ let him read to himself to his bedtime.

This has been what Thursdays have been since then:

1) Snow day= so we chose a family activity to do instead so he could stay up a little

2) Kept our 7pm date but SO was still going back and forth working on his computer instead of paying attention to me/us

3) another snow day we all decided to watch Frozen - I felt like the kid had been trapped inside and we should do something nice for him so I didn't have a problem giving this one up as much just to keep the peace

4) this one started at 7:30 ( i have a blog about this) basically kid and SO needed to discuss crap that wasn't important sometimes I think it's SO wasting time more than SS - just non sense then he goes and gets on the computer again before settling down with me

5) last night We all 3 eat dinner everythings going well i thought it gets really close to 7 and SO reminds SS8 it's almost 7 he needs to be finishing up. SO asks if i just wanna go take a shower and when I get out he should be ready. Sure no problem I prob need one I got enjoy the shower I get out dry my hair SO comes to me and says "ok can i call (his cousin)" I look at him and say nothing with "seriously"? It's well after 7 and I go upstairs to get our movie/shows ready he graba a beer then asked again "so can i call (cousin's name)"
I ask really nicely "what's it about? is it something that can't wait til tomorrow or this weekend?"
SO: "no it can wait... I wanted to tell him about this stock etc etc."
Me: "oh when did you find out about that?"
SO "monday"
Me: "is there a reason then that you need to call him today on thursday?"
SO "well i found out about it monday and then researched it today and wanted to tell him about it"
ME: "if it's waited since Monday is there a reason it can't wait til tomorrow?"
SO:" no i thought you'd want to talk to (cousin's wife)" (we just saw them a weekend ago and spent a few days with them)
ME: (completely silent frowning)
SO: are you gonna never let this go? are you gonna remember this forever You get cold very quickly

He didn't call but it's always something He has a history of disrupting our datenights himself a LONG history of it. I dont' like begging and I don't know if I feel like going home tonight after work to be patronized. I'm pretty irritated/hurt but not at all surprised that he needed to try and take the date night for granted again.

The only reason we even have Thursdays is b/c we barely get nights away with each other to go out on a date - and when we do he has asked me not too long ago right before a out of the house datenight if I'd give up the one we had scheduled for the following month so that SS8 could go to a birthday party! He has a birthday party nearly every weekend or every other weekend.

I'm exhausted from not being a priority time together not being a priority and it feels like it's a set up everytime I'm supposed to have alone time that's for me and us. It's always something and now that the kid doesn't interrupt as much SO does all the interrupting.

There's more that happened last night with possibly SS8 using his bedtime pee alarm to manipulate SO SO is the one that had the thought first b/c instead of going to the bathroom when the alarm went off he came to our bedroom door and just kept peeing in his underwear outside our door... maybe 30 minutes before this the child was fully awake stomping down the hall (which the kid in the past has admitted to doing to get attention)

UGH glad I have some time with my friends lined up Saturday