FauxSD and I ised to get along really well. At times I miss her, a lot. But when she pulled me into her drama that ended with her driving drunk with baby GD, I relized that I could not have her in my life. To much and that was the final straw. She is bi-polar. I get her as she reminds me so much of my mom, and faux SD and I had very similar childhoods. I have a connection with her, I just couldn't watch all the crap and I can't let my kids be apart of it.
When FauxSD was really down on her luck, she asked DH to take care of fauxSGD11. He got her to sign gardenship. For as long as I've known her she wanted her daughter back. She had been with her DH for 3 yrs, has had many ups and downs ... Isn't the best but most defiantly not the worst.
DH kept telling her, take me to court you aren't getting her back. FauxSGD would tell me she felt like it was almost an abuse of power. SGD was her DD, she signed the gardenship paperwork with the understanding she would get SGD back. She would lose the only dad she has ever had fighting for her DD. So, she did what she had to, to keep the relationship with both... She left SGD with DH. I always agreed with her, DH said if she really wanted her DD back she would go to court. I don't agree, she felt like he was making her chose. I felt like he was trying to make-up for everything wrong with SD by trying to babify SGD, he truly made her helpless and "need" him.
Well, after it because VERY clear SGD was going to cause a divorce for us (threatening me, my children, my animals, hitting me... Long list of why, but I was done) and she was going to cost him his job (not one of our friends will watch her), he starting have her spend weekends at SD which ended with her moving back. After 1 weekend of SGD at SDs it was very clear.. SGD actually listens to her mom, more then anyone else, that is where she truly belongs.
I still miss SD. I miss her SS8, and her dS9. Unfortanly I do not miss SGD, nor do I have any desire to every see her. And I won't have much to do with SD .... For now. She has actually had very little problems for about 6 months, I just don't like the bi-polar drama fest. But I am keeping my ear out... DH isn't always honest about her but SD25 is.
Anyways, this is more of the history here. And kinda like a diary entry. I miss SD28tonight. I wish things were different.