I knew this was coming
Well the time I knew was coming is here. sd21 and dh are trying to get pregnant. She has no idea what she's in for. No more getting sitters at the drop of a hat to go on their "date night" all the time, no more constant naps, none of that. It is so much harder to do anything with 2. I'm still bitter about babies when it comes to her. So while I knew it was coming, it still pisses me off and I hope she's miserable. Sorry, she is the one who did things to make me feel that way. And if she thinks that just because we talk now that means I'm going to be all head first in her pregnancy, she's wrong. I still have my own kids to take care of and finding time for a shower is a challenge, much less being up her ass telling her how beautiful she looks pregnant or whatever it is she will be expecting me to do.
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I don't believe anything is
I don't believe anything is going to make me be ok with her being happy that I lost a baby. it's not an obsession, either.
my first 2 are 13 years
my first 2 are 13 years apart, so even when I had 2, I didn't know what it was like to have 2 little kids who constantly need your attention all the time. my middle and last are only 5 years apart and bs5 is autistic, so yeah, I get overwhelmed! there are days when I just want to run away for a few days. I do hope she bites off more than she can chew.
Bi...I hate to agree with Sue
Bi...I hate to agree with Sue but I really think she is right on the money. Please take no offence. I think maybe you do obsess over her way to much.
What she said to you was horrible...but it may be time for you to get over it and get on with your life. Ignore hers.
no offense taken. I only
no offense taken. I only obsess over her when it comes to babies. I can't get over it. I can pretend and I've done a good job of IRL. she has no idea I still have resentment over what she did, she likely doesn't even remember what she did, but I will never forget. a sincere apology would make that a lot easier to do. she doesnt' deserve baby happiness when she is the kind of person who can celebrate the shattering of someone else's baby dreams.
deserve baby happiness when
deserve baby happiness when she is the kind of person who can celebrate the shattering of someone else's baby dreams
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Oh hun...please listen to yourself. This is not healthy for YOU. Who care about her, this is about you now. Maybe just a few sessions will get this off of your mind. All of this anger after this long, has to show IRL on some level. And I would assume if affects what you do IRL too.
I know you're right, I hate
I know you're right, I hate that she has the power to hurt me by something she said 4 years ago, but I don't know how to let it go. I really don't.
Ugh...maybe just try some
Ugh...maybe just try some counseling hun. It can't hurt. I bet you would feel much better if you can find a way to forgive her and move on from this.
She was a snot nose teenager who probably does not even remember being a rude ass to you. Not making excuses for her, because I know that cut you to the core.
But for your sake, you need to find a way to let this go. YOU would feel much better. ((hugs))
I really have an issue with
I really have an issue with people who can't afford the child(ren) they have to want to have another one! That's all I can say about it.
when she posted this
when she posted this "wonderful" news last night, she said they have a lot of money saved. I don't know what she considers to be a lot, but I know that paying rent and bills and gas and diapers for 2 kids will go thru a lot of money fast. not to mention their weekly date nights at nice restaurants. that shit won't be happening anymore, either.
she was less than a month
she was less than a month from 17 when it happened. I don't think he saw her being in the backseat giggling and fucking off with her bf while I sat in front bleeding and crying the same way I did. he did tell her when she was pregnant and I wasnt' having anything to do with it and she bitched at him about it (she has always felt that I owe her something big just because she is his daughter) that I have been through a lot and it is not easy for me to be around pregnant women or babies, that I have my own things to work through and he told me if she didn't lay off, he was going to rip into her.
I will never talk to her about it. she will just see it as an invitation to fight. she will defend herself and make excuses. I tried talking to her about it when I told her I was not going to be a part of her pregnancy and that is what she did. never apologized, just made excuses and acted like I am the horrible person for not doing backflips because she was pregnant. I don't think she has the strength or balls to own up to what she did, admit how soulless it was, and apologize.
yes, she saw me crying at a
yes, she saw me crying at a family bbq and instead of asking ME what was wrong, she kept asking her dad "why is she crying, dad? dad, why is she crying?" he told her when we got to the car, and as soon as he finished the sentence the fun and games and giggling and fucking off with her bf began. didn't even have the decency to just shut up and wait til she was away from me to celebrate. she was irate when she found out I was pregnant and that is why she was so happy I lost the baby. I have had another miscarriage and delivered a stillborn in my 2nd trimester since then, and finally had a healthy baby boy last summer. I can get along with her, but we will never be close and I will never dote on her kid(s) like she expects me to.