VM thinks her kids events should be top priority for everyone. Anyone who misses a baby shower or birthday party, or anything else, is a horrible person who doesn't care about them. Well today is BS's 7th bday. I posted a happy birthday to him this morning. I strongly suspect she checks my page daily, so there is no way she hasn't seen that. I sent out invitations to his party a few weeks ago.

She has not commented on my bday post and (OH THE SHAME!) I checked her page to see if she posted one of her own and she didn't. I have also heard nothing out of her about whether or not she will be here. Now if this were the other way around, she would have already inquired about our attendance more than once. She would be reminding us. Sending me "don't forget" updates on FB. You name it. I don't actually give a rip that I haven't heard from her or that she has not wished her brother of 7 years (she should know his bday by now) a happy bday. What pisses me off is how full of double standards she is. It's ok for her to completely blow off her brother's bday and not even bother to mention if she will be here or not, but you let us miss something and I'm getting grilled about it and guilt tripped about how sad she is and how the grandparents never make time for her kids, etc.

Honestly, I DON'T want them to come and I don't care if she doesn't acknowledge his bday. He doesn't really even know her, so it's not like he's gonna notice her absence. I just think it's bullshit that she holds us to higher standards than she holds herself to.