A small victory for SD13
After I talking to SD13 this evening, my blood was boiling. She was sobbing, I mean crying so hard she could hardly talk, about how her dad favors SD17. She told me her mom sees it, her younger 1/2 sister sees, everybody sees it. And how SD17 screams at her all the time, and she's scared of SD17.
Sooooo-H is the hardest person in world to talk to unless you are SD17. His moods are hard to guage; you'll think everything is fine one minute and the next second he's off on a tangent over the slightest thing. But I decided I was going to put on my suit of armor and hit H with it. So I told him just what I thought. About how he does favor SD17, and how cruel SD17 is to SD13 and everyone (meaning H) lets her get by with it. Of course, I had to tiptoe around it and put everything as gentle as possible, and, no I did not bring up anything about me and how I feel I'm being treated, but at least, for this weekend anyway, SD13 is going to get come coddling. H will be here in the morning, and when SD17 and SD13 are done at the dentist, SD17 is to drop SD13 off here.
And I'm going to make sure she has a fabulous time!
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Bio Sons
Were treated like that(their dad is a retired old time cop-) -oldest son was crap-youngest son was the Golden Child-Guess who trumps?
Karma
my dilema -I love them both
Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!
Endora-your Karma is incredible
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
I just wish my Karma would kick in. I've been waiting alot of years for it!
And of course you love them both.
My oldest was the one treated like crap by his father-and now the one who is estranged from us all. My youngest-well, lets just say that there were times in my life when he was all that kept me going.
And I, too, love them both.
That makes me feel bad for SD 13.
I also have a SD but she is 14. She gets loved like crazy whereas sometimes SD 20 is completley left out. Today Dh was on the phone with SD 20 and when he hung up it was "Okay bye." SD 14 gets I love you baby, sleep good, nig night."
I worry about the older girl. Granted, younger = more babying, but none the less. I fussed at him over it and I don't think he even realized until I said something.
Hug your SD 13 for me!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks, Jen. I'll give my girl a hug for ya!
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
And that's kind of how I feel about her. She's not like a SD-at least certainly not like the only other SD I have (SD17). While I don't want to raise her alone, if her father was here on a regular basis, I'd pack her bags & move her in myself!
I'm just glad (and relieved-I was holding my breath when I talked to him) that I got at least a little bit of it out to H. But of course he pulled his mood swing thing on me. First it was "I'm so luck to have a woman who cares like you do", which made me feel so much better, but then it was followed shortly, like within minutes, by a sarcastic comment. Why can't he just be nice and stay that way for more than 3 minutes?
Just this morning he called. Everything was fine-he was going to be here around noon-so I asked him what he wanted to eat. He said spaghetti (he wants it, like, every weekend). So I just offered a couple of other suggestions, thinking he had to be tired of spaghetti, I sure am. He went off on me. Total sarcasam, nasty little digs. I had to say-wait, here. I'm not the enemy, I'm your wife. I was just offering some other ideas for lunch. And that's how it goes. Constantly. Then, when he's through badgering me, he says "Are you really glad I'm coming home?" How the hell am I supposed to feel after being badgered for just asking him what he wants for lunch. But of course, he expects me to just be thrilled that he's going to be here. In person. To tell me everything I'm doing wrong.
SD13 Is so lucky to have you
I think that it is wonderful that you stepped up for her. It's just a shame that DH and self centered SD17 can't see the hurt this child is feeling.
My BF (not husband yet) has these moods swings as well. I spoke to him this morning he was all fine then when I spoke to him about an hour ago his in the shits with me and wont even tell me why. I'm so sick of his bullshit mood swings and I'm sure you are too (I know exactly how you feel, you can never do any right and he always knows best)
**Give a big hug to SD13 for me and one for you sweety**
And I'm lucky to have her
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
Since my son lives 7 hours from here, can you imagine dealing with the SD17 & H tag team without her? Ick.
Since SD17 and H are like a
Since SD17 and H are like a love couple and basically do everything together, would it be possible to start doing things with SD13 and you. Go out to lunch, movies, swimming whatever, just to show her how much she is loved?? I'm just not sure how you H would feel about it!
I agree that you both
are lucky to have each other!!! I love to read posts about how a SM actually likes (loves) their skids!