So BM calls DH raging (when the skids were with us) and asking DH to yell at the skids for stuff that has happened on her watch at her house. Apparently she was inspecting their bedrooms and found:

- SS17’s bedroom was so messy – the floor covered with clothes and stuff - she was hardly able to get his door open.
- SS17’s bedroom wall has water staining and mold on it – SS17 never mentioned it to BM.
- SS13 had moved the TV and DVD player from the basement into his bedroom.
- BM also found an open potato chip bag and box of cookies in SS13’s bed.

BM wanted DH to yell at them for this. DH doesn't and has told BM numerous times to quit it. Now I don’t agree with DH listening to BM rant about the problems she has at her house with the skids. I think that BM should be handling these issues on her own. But I'm not driving the bus on this issue.

My observation on the skids behavior – DH and I don’t have these problems with skids at our house because we don’t tolerate this type of behavior. We have always had a no food in the bedroom rule. The skids have to make their beds in the morning and put dirty clothes in their hampers. The skids also aren’t allowed to take big ticket items, like TVs, without asking us permission first.

Now this routine didn't happen overnight it took DH and I many years of consistently enforcing these rules. Once the skids figured out that they couldn't get away with breaking these rules they took the path of least resistance and started following the rules.

I feel like the skids we know are totally different people when they’re with BM. Which has me asking what kind of people will they be when their on their own. By their actions I feel like they'll be master manipulators.

~BettyRay