SS10 sleeps with BM.

It’s got to the point where he doesn’t even try to sleep in his own bed at her house, just goes right into her bed at bedtime. When BM attempts to have SS10 sleep in his own bed he throws a massive fit–crocodile tears, cries till he makes himself sick etc. Of course BM caves-she can’t stand to have SS10 upset-she’s better at being a friend than a parent.

So her solution is? …BM wants DH talk to SS10 about it, to take care of it for her. Brilliant.

To my DH’s credit this was his response to her: “I think you and SS10 should talk to a shrink about this. This is something that you (BM) need to fix on your own because it’s not happening at my house. I’ll talk to him but I don’t think it will do any good since this is something you need to handle with him on your own.”

Let me just add that when I met DH SS10 was 3, at that time DH was working with him to get him to sleep in his own bed. SS10 (then 3) would crawl into DH’s bed during the night and a lot of the times DH was exhausted and didn’t realize it till morning. SS10 did this with BM too but she thought it was cute and never bothered to address the issue.

In fact, DH delayed moving in with me because of this issue, he didn’t want SS10 to ever crawl into bed with us. It took DH a good 2 years before SS10 was totally sleeping the whole night in his own bed. Many nights of DH getting up and walking SS10 back to bed and sitting with SS10 till he was asleep, but it has paid off for us.

The thing is SS10 just does this with BM. No one else.

DH talked to SS10 last night. DH told SS10 that he needs to start sleeping in his own bed at BM’s house. He also told SS10 that he should talk to BM about why he feels he needs to sleep in her bed. The rest of the evening SS10 was sullen and quiet.

I don't think SS10 will make this easy for BM. I think this is going to cause big time drama at BM's house in the near future. That is if BM chooses to actually follow-thru. Which I don't see her doing as she hasn't in the past.

~BettyRay