We watch it but ONLY together and I must say we love it LOL! WE have made the agreement that we only watch it together:) Great excitement! If he watched it without me I would be hurt, vice versa...

Truelight and I are very open with each other and have been from the very start, which is a complete turn around from our previous marriages. He has always looked at porn in the way a normal man would. I'm more into erotic stories. When he was with The Wookie, he kept his porn hidden. When I was with The Loser, I kept my own kinky-ness hidden. When my Ex used porn, I was insecure and jealous (I know, double standard there), but it was the way HE made me feel about myself that gave me those negative feelings about the women he was drooling over. Truelight loves me and wants me in a way I have never experienced. He cherishes me, he desires me, and let me tell you, I'm far from Playboy material. He has put me on a pedestal, and I feel beautiful, wanted, and very wanton when with him.
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I don't understand the problem with porn. It's really no big deal to me. It's safe and DH is not cheating. I do watch porn with DH sometimes. I have learned alot of cool tricks! LOL }:)

It used to be a total deal breaker with me. I would feel like I wasn't good enough. But as I've gotten older, it really doesn't bother me as much. If my DH was using porn all of the time and I wasn't getting any, I'd be pissed. I still don't want to know he does it though, so I told him to hide the DVD's and delete browsing history on the computer. BUT there have been a few times we watched it together, and yes, that can be lots of fun }:)

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

I'm comfortable with it..but we watch it together, and it's nothing too extreme either. He's not watching it without me, and if he did on occassion when I'm not around 'for him' ***blushing here**** then I wouldn't be bothered by it, I don't think. It's not excessive either, we just watch it whenever were in the mood.

It's when you hide it, lie about it, and feel the need to look at it 'alone' and all.of.the.time.

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I do not watch porn and neither will BF as long as he is with me. I have found it on his computer and it just about ruined our friendship and partnership. It was VILE stuff, not normal man on woman, it was BEYOND vile... to the point I was really questioning his moral judgment in regard to sex in general.

I am not willing and never will be to watch porn with him or any other man and I have no desire to. Not turned on by it and don't want to be. If I cannot satisfy the person I am with I don't want it and visa versa.

Awww Belle - Great Icebreaker with a WONDERFUL subject so near and dear to so many of our hearts. LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX BAY-BEE... LET'S TALK ABOUT YOU AND ME...

Porn - love it! Used to think DH liked it too much, but now I like it as much as he does!! He writes me dirty emails (really good ones too) .. he draws erotic art (he is an artist) ... and we have "fun".

The only unacceptable way that I would think my DH would use porn would be if he were using one of the live chat sites, or having internet "sex" with someone. That's not cool.

My husband wants to hear all about me using porn while he is not here. He loves the idea and gives me more things to try.

If you look at it as 'FUN' and if you can find the type of porn that suits your sensibilities - romantic, playful, funny, movie-type, hardcore.... It can really enhance your sex life! There are some porn movies that are really funny! And then there are others that I absolutely think are disgusting and cannot even watch. So it's a matter of finding what works for you.

At least, that's my take on it.

*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***

1.Love porn:)
2.doesn't cause discomfort unless he's trying to hide it
3.unacceptable=keeping it like a dirty lil secret

I prefer mushy porn with a plot. DH prefers the in-your-face porn where no one talks, they just...well..ya know what they do.

it's an instant boner-fest if he hears I've been watching alone:)

oh...little known TMI about Barbie...I like girl-girl porn }:)

"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

I like the old school "No Man's Land" series. Its hot. *blushes again*

my bf likes the girl/girl as well, and yep so do I. Such a turn on and WOW really enhances and make sex lot of fun. LOL!

I find it completely unacceptable. I was married to a porn addict and I made sure porn wasn't a big deal to anyone I dated after that. I never want to deal with those issues again. His porn progressed to strippers, which he became addicted to, which lead to cheating with one of course. Didn't always feel that way. I used to watch it all the time. The Ex ruined for anyone else I would be with in the future.

"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."

We watch porn together. He has told me more than once that he really cherishes the fact that I am so open about it. We have even went to a few "toy stores" }:) and brought some stuff to use. The funny thing is he isn't happy with me using a vibrator because he feels he is being replaced and I don't need him anymore,

OMG I love mine, and we use it together LOL! Any woman that uses one I highly recommend to go buy an Eroscilator!! I promise you will never regret it!

I stick to the good 'ol "magic bullet"! I <3 IT!!

Oh but let me tell you there is NOTHING like the Eroscilator it oscillates 3600 times in a min!! LOL!!

I love my bullet. I have a rabbit, but I never use it. Is the Eroscilator like the "Hitatchi Magic Wand"?

Hmmmmm, I might have to look into that. I am a bullet woman. I've always gotten them and they've never let me down. I will stand by that!

Neither one of us really touch porn. He is just not into it. i wouldn't care if he was though. We have watched a couple movies together, but mainly just laughed through it. Anytime he looks at something even remotely racy he calls me over and lets me look too. I think its to prove hes not surfing porn alone? Don't really know, but he is just not interested.

Ex was really into porn and looked at it all the time, even late at night all night long. I ignored it, wasn't something I cared about either way. But I can see how it would bug me if it was a huge secret.

I don't really have a problem with it but I don't want to finsih the job for him. If he gets turned on looking at other women then he should take care of himself. I can't say it does much for me but it is probably my uptight upbringing. I don't think I heard the word sex until I was 14. The other night we were going thru the channels and the movie "house bunny" was on, I knew he wanted to watch it but said you "can save that for your spankfest after I go to sleep, just don't wake me up". He laughed. I don't know but I just can't get into it if I know someone else is turning him on. Insecurities anyone? LOL

1) Ladies, how do you feel about the idea of your BF/DH/SO using porn. Is it something you're comfortable with, uncomfortable with -- is it a total deal-breaker? (Gentlemen, I'll ask you this, too. My guess is it's not something you've thought about as much, but prove me wrong if I am!)

I have no problem with porn. We use it together but I am not adverse to him using it alone as long as it doesn't take away from our sexual relationship.

2) For those who are uncomfortable with your partner using porn, is it:
- The porn itself
- The way he uses it (e.g gets up at night and uses it, uses it "too much", etc.)
- Lying to you about it/keeping it from you
- something else
- all of the above?

Not uncomfortable

3) Do you feel like there are "acceptable" and "unacceptable" ways for your partner to use porn?

As far as I know, we view it together. We discuss things we see and learn some new adventures from it. I don't know about him, but for me, it really is about the ACT and not the people. I couldn't care less about what the people looked like. The only thing I can't stand is the sound. I usually keep it on mute.

4) Have you ever asked your partner what his reaction would be if you were using porn by yourself and keeping it from him? If so, what was his reaction? Was he fine with the idea (and did you believe him), or was he uncomfortable with it? If he was uncomfortable, was it for the same reasons you were/are?

My husband does not like the idea of me using it alone. He feels it should only be used as a couple tool for us.

I'm sorry - I just saw this and noticed there were 69 responses so I felt like it was my time to respond.

BF and I are pretty open about the porn thing. He used to have movies but he told me the other day that he decided to throw them out. I, of course said that he should have traded them or sold them but I'm cheap. I know he'll look online sometimes and that doesn't bother me at all. What has bothered me in the past is when I got to pay the cable bill and see that he ordered something filty very late at night after I'd gone to bed and didn't tell me about it. He knows it doesn't bother me so why hide it? Don't hide it, that's what I have a problem with.

We've watched it together before and usually ended up laughing hysterically.

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

DH checked the internet for a while at the begining of our relationship and I was NOT happy...no problem if we're together, but not him alone...it did almost wreck our relationship...eventually he "got it"...now we can watch once a year if that much...other than that, no.

As usual, I'm late getting into this conversation... But I LOVE porn. We don't watch it very often, but neither of us have a problem with the other watching it alone (probably because we don't do it often). We love to watch it together and then get all pornographic ourselves

And I'm also a girl-girl porn lover. Love me some boobies. I enjoy watching hetero porn sometimes if it's not all a closeup of the in-and-out action... BUT I love women's bodies and I LOVE having a woman to enjoy them with! It's so fun to find a woman who is on the same wavelength and can appreciate a good porn, artwork or pictures with you. And then of course the sexual tension between you is awesome too...

*blushing*

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

Well, its the next day. How many of us got down last night after reading this yesterday?
*raises hand* me! MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!! WOOHOO!!
And I may have convinced FH that tonight would be good as well. hehehehehe

Belle - this is semi- weird... but um... well, DH and I had some phone fun last night and of course, I had to tell him about this blog. So.. uh... I was thinking of ST right before... How WEIRD is that?? !!

*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***

Bring it on! But not the weird, kinky stuff! I know none of you are going to believe me but my DH doesn't "service himself." We have sex pretty frequently (3 or 4 times per week) so he says he doesn't feel the need to. So he doesn't watch it on his own and I'm glad of that because that WOULD make me feel a bit insecure.

But I love the sexy times. In fact, I'm giving my hubbie $270 worth of sex toys and porn for Valentine's Day }:)