Here is the link to my sitch last week. I never post from home so I'd like to update with a major victory in SO growing his balls.
http://www.steptalk.org/node/54317

Wednesday we had everything arranged to we could go out of town for 20 hours. Wednesday nite, another phone call from school about SS bullying and SS was being aggresive at basketball practice. SS has a MAJOR MELTDOWN. If you have never witnessed a child with ADHD have a fit then I could never do the justice to describe it b/c it is scary. SO lets him call his mother and after a minute SO gets on the phone with BM.

Here is an example what she is doing after fitting the pieces together. On her Monday nite call, she tells SS that someone gave SS an electric guitar and amp but he can't come and see it that weekend b/c she was going somewhere Sunday afternoon. Each week was something different causing SS to be heartbroken he wasn't at BM's. This causes SS to get himself in trouble at school b/c if me and DAD are working, maybe he can go to BM house and do whatever it was she was bribing him with. A few times he was allowed to go until SO caught on this is what the boy wanted.

BM admits to SO that she is telling SS that she is doing all this stuff to get him back and things he can do so he can spend more time with her. That will never happen b/c BM was declared unfit period. Even her own lawyer told the court that she was too unstable to be around children in an authoritative role. In fact, it is in the court papers that if the visits cause SO any problems that he can terminate all contact with BM. BM and SO really got into it over the phone and SO told her how it was

She must have said something along the lines of me and my family helping take care of the kids b/c he said 'That is the key word, PARENTSSSS. If you don't like things the way they are then you need to step up and help out. I never deny you taking the kids anytime that school is out and I wouldn't even worry about the child support but you are brain washing a child into your fantasy and making things more difficult on me...financilly, mentally and physically.'

Well I was losing my mind with an hour of everyone screaming and then hearing that BM was trying to cause this shit. SO and I had a long talk. I told him that I was sick of him bitching to me everytime something happened. I told him that he never talks to the principal or the mental pros about what is going on and GUESS WHAT?? they don't know what's going on if he didn't tell them. He did call the mental health place and talked with the counselor (BM's and SS) about what is going on and they came up with a plan.

BM was very cooperative on Friday. Mind you though, SO took skids to BMs, ran back up there 2 hours later and took SS to practice and then ran him back to BMs. We came home early from our trip on Sunday b/c SD cheered and SS had a game so BM wasn't put out one bit take care of anything. She didn't even go to the game and watch her kids.

She is keeping the kids all week during their break, with SO taking time from work and taking SS to him appts and stuff. She also gave him 2 months worth of CS - $100.