Ok being a stepparent myself, I am even more at a loss of how in the world a women can grow up with me and my sisters and brother and still not see us as family!!! My dad married my stepmom when I was five!!! My middle sister was 7 my brother 10 and my oldest sister 11, so all of us still little kids. Yes she was very young herself with her own 5 year old. All these years seeing us completely grow up, but still separates us. How do you do that? Why is there a need to keep a distance from our dad? I push for my husband to try harder with his kids. How could you not want that.