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Heaven help me not to strangle BM!!!

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Submitted by bayers44 on Mon, 08/08/2011 - 1:38am

Where to start... On Saturday DH gets a call her but I take it because he is driving. We pull into a store at the same time. She askes to talk to the kids. Neither of them are with us, but I can tell she has been crying. sooooooooooo I try to help. The main reason is I would rather her talk to me than take it out on the skids. She states the the people she is living are telling her she is a bad mother because she medicates her youngest son. He has ADHD and a heart condition that he was born with.

Skids and their non-manners

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Submitted by bayers44 on Fri, 03/11/2011 - 2:07am

I have noticed while reading many of the posts on this site that many of our skids come to us with no manners! My skids came to me at 3 and 8 and had zero manners. Even my DH had to be taught a few manners - I don't quite understand it. WHy do these BM not want to teach their kids respect, morals and manners?? I don't get it? When my ss turned 16 his bm took him and bought him condoms!! And then let his girlfriend spend the night at her house with him! BM also has another son who is only 6!!! Why would she think that this is ok?

It makes my skin crawl!

DH stepped up to the plate!!

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Submitted by bayers44 on Thu, 02/03/2011 - 11:24pm

So this past Sunday, DH sat me down to have a talk. He was tired of the fighting, and he wanted to figure things out. He wanted to know what he could do to make things right. We talked for awhile when I finally just said that I couldn't take it anymore. He had taken everything away from me in the last month. The one thing that I had always wanted - a family. He took that away from me. I told him a story - about when I had decided to give up a dream that I had had for so long for another dream.

What?? Does he have no shame??

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Submitted by bayers44 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 9:04pm

I was just posting on another comment and DH was on the phone with a buddy, and I look over my shoulder and he is reading what I am typing.

What the heck???

What a jerk! First he contacts my therapist behind my back and tries to hide it. Then has to come clean, now he is trying to read my comments on this site?

How much lower can he go?

Ahh, it finally comes to light!!

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Submitted by bayers44 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 8:24pm

The dirty SOB!!! My dear dear DH, finally shows his true colors!!!

SO today - again a decent day. I went grocery shopping (mainly for things I needed - he went yesterday but didn't get things that I needed, but I didn't tell him what I wanted for reasons that I won't get into right now.)

But I get home and tell him what my doctor says, and we are actually having a conversation in front of both skids. Polite and nice - something that hasn't happened at ALL in the past 30 days or more.

Another day, and DH still being polite to me

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Submitted by bayers44 on Tue, 01/25/2011 - 10:33pm

Hmm something is going on. Not too sure as to what, but DH is being polite. We actually had a conversation today. Not about anything with substance (taxes) but it had more words in it than we have spoken to eachother in the last 2 weeks combined.

He still cooked dinner for HIS children (and me) but this time I actually helped do dishes. Normally I don't because I don't eat with him and the skids. I ate the dinner, so I will help with the clean up.

Can DH forgive me for telling him the truth about SS17?

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Submitted by bayers44 on Sun, 01/23/2011 - 5:33pm

I am not a biological parent - I have only been a step parent for 9 years. I have loved 2 wonderful step sons for several years. But now, the oldest SS17 has turned into a manipulative, lying, stealing, teenager. He started spending more time with his BM and his attitude has turned horrible. I am sure deep down, the boy DH and I raised is still there, but it is buried down real deep. He is being manipulated by his BM.