So, I've been trying to disengage and not get involved with anything pertaining to SS15 at all. Anyway, SS was in his cave of the basement last night, since he won't hang out with us (thank God). DS10 decided to make himself a bowl of oatmeal and heated water in the microwave, which reminded me of soemthing so I said to DS10 and DH, "Oh yeah, about the microwave (which I never really use besides to make the occasional microwave popcorn)...it was disgusting, I wanted to see how long it would take before someone would clean it, and no one did and I couldn't take it any longer so I finally scrubbed that thing out good. Anyway, yesterday I look in it and it is dirty AGAIN in a matter of days....do you think you guys could please make sure it stays clean and if something splatters clean it up?"

Now I didn't know who messed up the microwave, I just was letting them know so in the future they would keep it clean, but DS10 tells me SS15 heated up meatballs yesterday and let it explode all over, but DH says well I told him to clean it up. I said that's fine, I don't care who did it, just make sure they clean up after themselves (and do a good job).

So SS15 must have been listening in from the basement because he comes running up the stairs and looks at me and says with an attitude, "Listen, I cleaned up my mess from yesterday, so yeah, I cleaned, I don't know what you are talking about!" And just glares at me with this attitude and I was waiting for DH to jump in and tell him not to talk to me that way, but he didn't. I didn't say a word and SS storms off back inthe basement. At this point I was pissed DH didn't say a word, and I am trying to disengage so I went up into my room. DH comes up and asks me what is wrong and I say nothing. He keeps asking and asking....I know if I say anything we will get into a fight, but he keeps asking so finally I say, "Did you hear the way SS spoke to me? And you didn't say a word?" Oh course he thought SS15 didn't do anything wrong, and we ended up fighting yet again last night over SS!!! I can't take it, I was really upset last night. I don't know if DH felt guilty later and realized he was wrong and didn't want to admit it because later he comes up stairs and I am still awake and he asked me if it would help me sleep if he rubbed my back...so he ended up giving me a back rub until I feel asleep. That still doesn't change the fact that SS15 is ruining our relationship!