Hello to any reading this. I’m a step-mom of 12 soon to be 13 yr old girl. Her father and I have been living together, not yet married, for 9 years. She doesn’t live with us, she lives with her aunt 2 hours away. Allow me to give some background on this situation. My “husband”, who shall be called “J”was never married to the girls mother, who shall be called“A”. They had a very brief relationship in during which she cheated on him with no less than 3 guys. J and A were very young and J was on probation when they met for something he did 2 years before they met.