I need a pick my up.
This is so not step related. But I need feedback on a topic.
Today at lunch I was heating up a slice of plain pizza for lunch and a woman I work with commented on how I was eating again today. I heated up an egg white, turkey sausage, and whole-grain muffin breakfast sandwich around 10. She proceeded to ask how much my doctor said was ok to gain and I told her they told me 25 to 35 lbs. She said that was a lot.
I am 30 weeks pregnant and have gained 27 lbs so far. I was what people considered overweight to begin with but I was never like really bad. I wore a size 10. Anyway needless to say I wanted to get opinions of other women and know if I am really gaining way too much weight.
Thanks.
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I gained
I gained a lot of weight when I was pregnant over 30 years ago. I gained about 30 pounds didn't think too much about it until i couldn't get rid of the "baby weight". Just be careful of what you are eating and as long your feeling well don't worry about what the coworker says. Congrats and Best wishes.
Thank you. I have been trying
Thank you. I have been trying to eat decent. Not gonna lie the oreos call my name. I try not to eat many at all. I will say this heat is not helping me at all. I am getting a little swollen from that but not sure if this is normal but I also wnet up about 4 or 5 cup sizes. Yay me.
I wore a size 10 when I got
I wore a size 10 when I got pregnant both times, and gained about 40 pounds with both pregnancies. Both my pregnancies, labors, and babies were healthy as can be.
Please DO NOT listen to some rude coworker who has no business commenting on your eating habits. Your doctor should be the only one addressing any issues with your weight gain, and it seems like you're doing just fine! You are growing another human being for goodness sake that baby needs food! :)
I also agree, this line of
I also agree, this line of questioning is extremely rude.
It's nobody's business what
It's nobody's business what you eat and when you eat it. You're a grown-ass woman gaining weight in line with your doctor's expectations. Do NOT let anyone make you feel bad.
Food has been used to control women and their bodies for centuries. It's not right. Do what's best for you and that sweet baby.
I thought that it was well
I thought that it was well known not to comment on women's weight and especially not when they are pregnant. Your coworker is a B**ch.
I'm also pregnant and have also been told 25-35 pound gain is what to expect/aim for. Sounds like you are right on track to me. Your doctor will know best though and I am sure they will tell you if they have any concerns.
Next time
Tell this Karen that you only take health input from certified medical professionals. None of her business what u eat, when u eat, or how much u eat. You are carrying that baby, you get to make the decisions.
Wow, so rude. Where did she
Wow, so rude. Where did she get her medical degree and when did she become your doctor?
Ignore.
It is rude. Medical degree
It is rude. Medical degree LOL!
Damn...
Damn...someone apparently hit their head in the shower this morning! Since when is it OK to comment on what a pregnant woman is eating unless it is to ask if there is anything you can get for her while you are up? Tell "Pregnancy Patrol Patty" to stuff it. Or better yet, just snarl at her and bare your teeth like a hungry German Shepard. Her reaction will make a great story to tell at your baby shower!
You are not obligated to
You are not obligated to discuss your health or medical treatment with anyone other than your practitioner.
What I found when i was pregnant is a lot of women will insist what they experienced is what you will experience. What knowledge or so called facts that applied to their pregnancy is not guaranteed to apply to yours.
It irritated me that a lot of people assumed I experienced morning sickness or that I was feeling this or that. They were not asking about my experience, they were projecting their experience onto me. I would look at them confused b/c i was not feeling or experiencing it.
Yeah I have people ask me how
Yeah I have people ask me how I am doing sometimes and I say I hate being pregnant. The looks I get it is like I beat a small child. What they do not know is that not everyone has a good pregnancy. I have had a tough one. I still get sick most days and when I am not I eat becuase I can never tell when the naseua will kick it for me anymore.
Thank you for the support.
Next time, give her a look of
Next time, give her a look of puzzled condemnation and ask "Why would you say/ask such a thing?"
Flipping the script is the best way to deal with judgy or rude people.
Ann Landers always gave this same advice!
Ann Landers, who wrote an advice column for over 50 years, gave the exact same advice when asked how to respond to people who ask intrusive questions. Great advice.
How rude! Next time, just
How rude! Next time, just smile and walk away.
I gained 30 with my first and
I gained 30 with my first and 40 with the 2nd and 3rd. Very small to start with. But if your Dr said 25 to 35 is okay you should end up close to that range at least by the end with where you're at now.
Some people need to learn to have a filter.
Oh HELL no!
Oh HELL no!
Who is this dumpster fire of a woman and what cavernous hoo-hah did she crawl out of that taught her exactly ZERO manners?!
I've known since I was a TODDLER not to comment on people's body shape and size. Fath, thin, tall, skinny - you don't say a SINGLE F$%#ING WORD about them unless you are 1) trained to do so, and 2) have permission to do so.
You're not gaining too much. She needs to start stuffing her own pie hole versus worrying about what other people are eating through theirs.
Thank you! Made me laugh I do
Thank you! Made me laugh I do not comment to anyone on their weight either. I was raised much better than that. I was raised to respect my elders and she is older than my parents so of course naturally I did not really have a smart come back as I was taught not to do that.
I understand not speaking up
I understand not speaking up against elders, but when they are being rude and disrespectful, it's entirely okay to tell them as much.
"Karen, I am not interested in your opinion about my weight or pregnancy and ask that you please no longer comment on it to me. It's rude."
You don't have to be an arse, but you most certainly can be blunt. Telling someone "this is not a conversation we will continue to have" is perfectly acceptable.
And if this Karen continues to harass you, take your complaint to HR. You're at work. You have a right to not be harassed. She doesn't have the right to just spout willy-nilly at work. Remember that.
"Why do you want to know? "
"Why do you want to know? "
Thank you everyone. You all
Thank you everyone. You all definitely made me feel better.