Quick history: I moved 2 hours away from BD10 when I was married to my previous husband who is the father of BS7. I also have BD10 whos father I never married. The move couldn't really be helped, as my ex was out of a job for months and the only reasonable offer he had received was 2 hours away. We divorced within the next year after moving due to his infidelities and the fact that our marriage had started its downward spiral shortly after we moved. DH and I met right about this time through a group of people that we mutually hung out with. Long story short, things started to happen and after a year of being together we moved in together and eventually married. When the custody battle started for BD10, her bio-dad showed no mercy and drew it out to be an 18 month battle. During this time, he put her in school, dance and girl scouts so when it came down to the ruling BS10 was already "established" at his house. I am still bitter about that till this day, but things can't be changed and she is happy. Although, we have adequately fair parenting time considering the distance, I make every effort to attend all of her concerts, school functions, dance recitals, and occasionally just drive the 2 hours to pick her up and take her to dinner.

DH and I have been together for just over 6 years and married for 3. He has SD16 and SS19(who has nothing to do with DH-longer story). SD16 is with us week on week off. Unfortunately, BM is into popularity parenting and does everything for SD16. If SD16 wants to go shopping, BM will take her shopping and drop hundreds of dollars without blinking an eye. When SS19 was about ready to be kicked out of school at 16, she was still going to buy him a car just because she promised him, regardless of his actions. If SD16 asked BM to lay in a puddle so SD16 can walk over it so she doesn't have to get wet, BM would do it in a heartbeat. If DH refuses to be manipulated and disrespected which usually results in saying no and SD16 getting pissed, BM will text him continuously telling him that he's the worst father ever and a deadbeat dad and that's why SD16 and SS19 don't like him.

Just recently, SD16 wanted to move to another room of the house, which happens to be BD10 and BS7's playroom and storage closet for numerous totes and boxes, etc. She has asked this at least 3 times before and the last time, I put my foot down and said that the answer is no and will remain no... Period. When I reminded her of this, she wrote me a nasty text (because she doesn't have the nerve to say it to my face) saying that she doesn't see what the big deal is and that I only said no because I hate her and that I wouldn't say yes because I don't want to take anything away from my kids. And that I do everything for my kids but nothing ever for her. Also, that she just hates it here. So this is just an example of what I have to deal with when Princess doesn't get her way.

So DH and I have been talking about moving back down to where BD10 lives with her bio-dad during the school year so we can be closer and have her 50% of the time. Initially, we were going to wait until SD16 graduated from high school. But now, with her disrespect becoming uncontrollable and her entitlement issues I have a hard time staying here for a skid that has absolutely no respect for what we are trying to do for her when I have a daughter who would do anything to have her mother and step-dad closer. I keep telling myself that it's only fair for SD16 that we stay until she graduates. But it's harder and harder to tell myself that every day that goes by. Am I wrong for wanting to sell the house, pack up and move and tell her to have a nice life? I am seriously wanting to tell DH that we just need to give BM full custody and blow this popsicle stand.