Took the 5 little darlings out for dinner and a movie tonight. Had a great time. Saw Spiderwick, it's pretty good by the way. But you know when you get kids in a comfortable setting, like riding in the car shotgun they say the darndest things. We were all talking on the way home and SS11 says, "My cousin and her friends do drugs." I was like WHAT!! He says "my cousin does drugs." Mind you cousin is about 11 or 12 too??? This cousin is on BM side of the family. Cousins dad is a known user, and so is SS11 BM. When I say drugs I mean pot and possibly others but weed for sure. I am going to talk to DH about this and see what he thinks. I don't want to jump the gun and loose that trust I have with SS11. If he finds out I said something to dad he might not open up again about some of the crap that goes on when he's at BMs house on the weekends. Should we just wait and see or should we say something NOW?? We never give the kids 20/20 when they get home, but maybe we should. I have told all of them that they can tell me ANYTHING, and if they say immunity(like survivor) I won't say a word. That's my rule except if it pertains to their safety. BM allows SS11 and SD9 to spend the night with uncle junkie and I personally don't like it, but I have't ever said a word. But I guess it's no better than them staying with BM either. What would you guys do?