I apologize in advance for the long entry. I have been with SO for 3 years now. We have a baby on the way and he has 9 (almost 10 year old) from a previous relationship. Me and his son do not get along. No matter how I try to talk to his son, he argues with me every step of the way. He is very used to getting his way and being babied by every person in the family - mom, grand parents, friends. When he isn't with us, he has no bed time (including school nights), can eat what he wants, and do what he wants - including not showering or brushing his teeth. School has always been big for me.