Being a stepparent is hard. It's probably the most unappreciated role in a family. If you're lucky your step kids have a bio parent who is supportive or at the very least doesn't talk shit about you to their kids. That was not my case. My husband and I started a relationship in the middle of his divorce. It had already been going on for months. I was supportive in any way I could be. When bio mom got arrested, I gave up my bed in my apartment to the kids so they'd have a place to stay.