I am a stepfather of a soon to be a 9-year-old boy. I am practically his father bc I invest so much time and effort in him to make sure he grows up correctly. He technically has ADHD. He is smart but every time i help with his schoolwork, he acts defiant bc he doesn't listen to what i tell him. he doesn't want to do the work and its frustrating for me. especially when I preach the same message as his mom. and she puts pressure on me to make sure I help him, which I do bc I am fully invested in his education.