Thanks for all the replys......you know i really feel that my sd is trying to drive me and my husband apart and some days i really feel like it works because there was one day that i told her to clean her room and she went back there and was putting everything in her toy box (shoes, socks, movies, crayons, everything) and I made her go back in there and take all of that out becuase there is a place for everything and she needed to clean it right and then her dad comes in when she wasn't even done and told her that was good and i said you better not let her leave this room without cleaning i